"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talking to friend's ex-girlfriend...yes or no?

gravityeyelids

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Okay so i met this girl off tinder...and right off the bat she was talking to me a bunch and told me to text her...replying very fast etc. I realized she was from my hometown and told her that. She asked where I went to high school, i told her (not the same as her). She asked my which class i was....then she asked me if i knew any of the [last name]'s. We'll call the last name Smith for the purpose of this convo

I knew of a few people that went to my high school by Smith, so i told her i had met Katherine Smith...She asked me if i knew nick or taylor Smith. I realized I had partied with Taylor (guy name) several times in high school. He kind of dropped off the map when he got a GF and me and my friends were kind of pissed we lost touch with him.

So i searched this girl on facebook and realized she was the girl who dated taylor, for a few years. Now i've partied with Taylor a few times. I guess i would consider him a friend, and i would certainly say hello if I saw him. However he partied with the same group of friends I did. To be honest I feel weird talking to his ex-GF and trying to get her to sleep with me.

Is this feeling justified or should a just say screw it. I mean people who know each other date each others' ex's frequently...thats how people meet. I know this one girl (a good friend of mine), who's dated 3 of my close friends...and they're all reasonably cool with each other...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alvafe

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you don't have any contact with this friend of yours, he droped you guys for her, I don't see much friendly convos happening, and hey as long she want to open her to you go ahead, I don't know if hse is worthy to be in a LTR but as long she make you stand ready go for it.
 

El Payaso

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This is just purely my observation as an outsider and what I read but he doesn't really sound like much of a friend. More like a casual acquaintance. I say definitely go for her.
 

devilkingx2

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I guess if you've lost contact with him and aren't that close then it should be fair game to date his ex
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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