"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Talking over the phone for hours
- Thread starter Alpheta
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Maximus Rex
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It's the distance and the lacking of seeing each other that's going to kill the relationship. You should end this effed up and halfed assed situation now.
dustmuffin
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OsirisII
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SuckItUp
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It can never work because it defeats the purpose of a relationship which is to spend time together face to face.Alpheta said:
Physical needs can't be met so the relationship is doomed to fail.
pyros
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It works if both of you are really into each other AND it is just temporary, I mean, you're distant for a specific amount of time: 1 month, 4 months, 1 year...and then any of you move to be with the other.
Also, you have to be sure that either you or her are willing to move...because if not, then it doesnt make any sense.
You have to have a plan like: "well, after X months I will move to be with her", or "in X months she will be back".
I've seen couples being in a LDR for YEARS, just to break up in the end. This is not what I mean. I mean that if you're gonna be in this situation for a year or so max, it can work. But do not be there for years and years.
And yes, I also spent a lot of time on skype talking to my girl, but it did not annoy me. Besides, if I decreased the amount of time we talked on skype, she got upset lol.
It was like at least 1 hour a day, to a max of around 3 hours, but we were distant just for 6-7 months, and visited each other every month or month and a half.