"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Talking over the phone for hours
- Thread starter Alpheta
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maximus Rex
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It's the distance and the lacking of seeing each other that's going to kill the relationship. You should end this effed up and halfed assed situation now.
dustmuffin
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OsirisII
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SuckItUp
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It can never work because it defeats the purpose of a relationship which is to spend time together face to face.Alpheta said:
Physical needs can't be met so the relationship is doomed to fail.
pyros
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It works if both of you are really into each other AND it is just temporary, I mean, you're distant for a specific amount of time: 1 month, 4 months, 1 year...and then any of you move to be with the other.
Also, you have to be sure that either you or her are willing to move...because if not, then it doesnt make any sense.
You have to have a plan like: "well, after X months I will move to be with her", or "in X months she will be back".
I've seen couples being in a LDR for YEARS, just to break up in the end. This is not what I mean. I mean that if you're gonna be in this situation for a year or so max, it can work. But do not be there for years and years.
And yes, I also spent a lot of time on skype talking to my girl, but it did not annoy me. Besides, if I decreased the amount of time we talked on skype, she got upset lol.
It was like at least 1 hour a day, to a max of around 3 hours, but we were distant just for 6-7 months, and visited each other every month or month and a half.