"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Talking about sex.

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OK, here's a question for all u fellas out there:
What's the best way to initiate talking about sex?
What are the best topics with it? (I don't want to be asking really explicit stuff)
Really just any tips you can give me about this, I'm comfortable with talking to any girl now about anything, dating, the lot.. anything but Sex! This apparently is quite important also, and I feel like I'm missing out on quite a big part of my game so cheers for any responses in advance!

Cheers,
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bump
Cmon guys, doesn't anybody have anything to say about this?
 
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If it doesn't come up naturally, you haven't made it to the level of rapport with the girl that would merit you even considering bringing it up.
 
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Dude, you're just a young kid. Why do you need to talk about sex for?

Anyway, you shouldn't have to try and force 'sex talk' into a conversation. Like Francisco said, once you reach a certain level of rapport, it will come naturally.

If you try and force things like this, you will come across as really pervy.
 
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I wasn't going to touch the age thing but Teen Spirit is right. I guess being horny makes a teenage guy want to talk about things other than video games. :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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