"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Talking about ex on first date

SmoothHendrixPS2

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Like I said, at least she's being honest and telling you up front. You know how many girls have ex's still in the picture? Texting them or checking in on a regular basis. I'd rather her tell me straight up. Her not telling you and you finding out on your own would be an even bigger red flag.

I understand where your coming from. Your values are admirable, but sometimes the game with women doesn't make sense. It wouldn't be totally a bad thing for her to know your ex still hits you up. This gives you social proof, and shows her that you are a man who gets women. Ex girlfriends are still in the picture because they can't get over your good ****. That's the first thing that will come to her mind. Take advantage of it. If anything, she now knows that she has competition. Women turn into demons when they want to win a guy over another girl. Don't be so quick to hide any information that proves your sexual involvement with members of the opposite sex.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Blacksheep

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Like I said, at least she's being honest and telling you up front. You know how many girls have ex's still in the picture? Texting them or checking in on a regular basis. I'd rather her tell me straight up. Her not telling you and you finding out on your own would be an even bigger red flag.

I understand where your coming from. Your values are admirable, but sometimes the game with women doesn't make sense. It wouldn't be totally a bad thing for her to know your ex still hits you up. This gives you social proof, and shows her that you are a man who gets women. Ex girlfriends are still in the picture because they can't get over your good ****. That's the first thing that will come to her mind. Take advantage of it. If anything, she now knows that she has competition. Women turn into demons when they want to win a guy over another girl. Don't be so quick to hide any information that proves your sexual involvement with members of the opposite sex.
Thats a very good point man!

About this competition, this makes sense too. Gonna keep those things in mind :)
 

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"I rather dont talk about the past right now".

in a funny, sick way that dude did exactly what needs to be done to leave a major imprint on her, by NOT staying . This is how you drive women crazy. You gotta keep it moving and let them go. Talking sweet despite ending the relationship, getting a new girl.

He basically put her on hold, whenever he feels like it he can pull her back. When he senses she is ready to move on , he'll push harder and try to get her back. Basically he keeps her from truly moving on. With women like this you can't win.

Present yourself like the best thing ever happened to her. People start to talk about past LTR's when there are no convo topics. She kinda lured you in to this conversation imo. Next time remember, ALWAYS say your previous ltr ended due logistical issues rather than personal problems, and on your terms.
 
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