"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Talking about ex on first date

SmoothHendrixPS2

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Like I said, at least she's being honest and telling you up front. You know how many girls have ex's still in the picture? Texting them or checking in on a regular basis. I'd rather her tell me straight up. Her not telling you and you finding out on your own would be an even bigger red flag.

I understand where your coming from. Your values are admirable, but sometimes the game with women doesn't make sense. It wouldn't be totally a bad thing for her to know your ex still hits you up. This gives you social proof, and shows her that you are a man who gets women. Ex girlfriends are still in the picture because they can't get over your good ****. That's the first thing that will come to her mind. Take advantage of it. If anything, she now knows that she has competition. Women turn into demons when they want to win a guy over another girl. Don't be so quick to hide any information that proves your sexual involvement with members of the opposite sex.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Blacksheep

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Like I said, at least she's being honest and telling you up front. You know how many girls have ex's still in the picture? Texting them or checking in on a regular basis. I'd rather her tell me straight up. Her not telling you and you finding out on your own would be an even bigger red flag.

I understand where your coming from. Your values are admirable, but sometimes the game with women doesn't make sense. It wouldn't be totally a bad thing for her to know your ex still hits you up. This gives you social proof, and shows her that you are a man who gets women. Ex girlfriends are still in the picture because they can't get over your good ****. That's the first thing that will come to her mind. Take advantage of it. If anything, she now knows that she has competition. Women turn into demons when they want to win a guy over another girl. Don't be so quick to hide any information that proves your sexual involvement with members of the opposite sex.
Thats a very good point man!

About this competition, this makes sense too. Gonna keep those things in mind :)
 

Gamisch

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"I rather dont talk about the past right now".

in a funny, sick way that dude did exactly what needs to be done to leave a major imprint on her, by NOT staying . This is how you drive women crazy. You gotta keep it moving and let them go. Talking sweet despite ending the relationship, getting a new girl.

He basically put her on hold, whenever he feels like it he can pull her back. When he senses she is ready to move on , he'll push harder and try to get her back. Basically he keeps her from truly moving on. With women like this you can't win.

Present yourself like the best thing ever happened to her. People start to talk about past LTR's when there are no convo topics. She kinda lured you in to this conversation imo. Next time remember, ALWAYS say your previous ltr ended due logistical issues rather than personal problems, and on your terms.
 
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