You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jtlancer said:Placed on bucket list. I will go out on the dance floor first
and dance like the world is ending tomorrow.
Flash mobs are choreographed.BBbardot said:it's called a flashmob...
it's set up in advance on facebook.
edit: you must be all 12 yo or totally unaware of
this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IN_YvaW505c&feature=related
watch until the end this is pretty amazing.
or this one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9rytUeq62k
please guys promise me you won't start dancing like that cause nobody is going to follow most likely. IT's a flash mob. It's looks good on youtube but it's not really sponteinious.
Sigh, if you gonna link me to a 12 yo please make sure your info is correct, dumbass...BBbardot said:it's called a flashmob...
it's set up in advance on facebook.
edit: you must be all 12 yo or totally unaware of
this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IN_YvaW505c&feature=related
watch until the end this is pretty amazing.
or this one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9rytUeq62k
please guys promise me you won't start dancing like that cause nobody is going to follow most likely. IT's a flash mob. It's looks good on youtube but it's not really sponteinious.
-chalengeguyfan not always. flashmob= flash mobilisation A flash mob (or flashmob)[1] is a group of people who assemble suddenly in a public place, perform an unusual and pointless act for a brief time.
also there is flashmobs where poeple just stop moving. Seems like the only constant is public place and creating surprise doing something to together when we are suposed to be strangers.