"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Talk about clueless! I don't even know the right way to ask a girl out!

nismo-4

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And the only ways I know of actually fail! Here are a few:

Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?

I don't use these lines after a string of rejections. Most times, since I don't know what to do, I either guess what I'm supposed to say (with awkward results), or I don't make a move at all. When I guess, I usually get laughed at by guys watching. When I don't move, I feel stupid. I lose either way of course.

How do some of you guys ask a girl out on a date, or just plain ask her out?
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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619joe

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Your lines seem too forced and awkward."I wanna get together someday" is too direct bro and It wont work.

"Lets hang out sometime" is perfectly fine.If you follow it up with a number close then I dont see it failing.UNLESS your interaction with her was poor and you didnt make her feel completly comfortable around you then I could see you getting rejected.

In terms of guys watching,I dont give two flying ****'s infact now Id prefer if guys watch to see the how the pros do it.JK but you know what I mean based on the fact that if they wanna watch,show em how its done and just get the mindset in your head that they are "afc's wanting to learn" and you gotta teach em how its done.

If thats too much man and maybe you cant even number close infront of people,get her facebook atleast.Message her a bit here n there and just tell her "hey lets hit up starbucks one day how about _____ OR whats your number lemme call you up someday and well chill"

One last thing,dont make a move just for the sake of making a move.If you dont feel your interaction is going well,dont bother even trying to ask her out because your chances of rejection will be alot higher
 

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Your lines are all too vague. You need to be more specific. Have a real plan (with specific date/time and location) and invite her to come along.
 
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"I'd like to get to know you a little better. Me and my friend are going to _______ on Saturday, would you like to tag along with us? My treat."

Has worked wonders for me. The presence of a friend makes it a little less awkward and helps you be the funnest you can be (friends get you pumped). Note- don't take this as a date though, because the presence of the friend negates this. This is a "get to know you" exercise. Towards the end, ask for a real date.

Obviously, this only works under certain circumstances, but I find it a fair technique.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?
This is not specific enough. You're the man, you're supposed to lead. Give them a place and a time, so all it comes down to is a 'yes' or 'no' from them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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