"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Talk about clueless! I don't even know the right way to ask a girl out!

nismo-4

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And the only ways I know of actually fail! Here are a few:

Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?

I don't use these lines after a string of rejections. Most times, since I don't know what to do, I either guess what I'm supposed to say (with awkward results), or I don't make a move at all. When I guess, I usually get laughed at by guys watching. When I don't move, I feel stupid. I lose either way of course.

How do some of you guys ask a girl out on a date, or just plain ask her out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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619joe

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Your lines seem too forced and awkward."I wanna get together someday" is too direct bro and It wont work.

"Lets hang out sometime" is perfectly fine.If you follow it up with a number close then I dont see it failing.UNLESS your interaction with her was poor and you didnt make her feel completly comfortable around you then I could see you getting rejected.

In terms of guys watching,I dont give two flying ****'s infact now Id prefer if guys watch to see the how the pros do it.JK but you know what I mean based on the fact that if they wanna watch,show em how its done and just get the mindset in your head that they are "afc's wanting to learn" and you gotta teach em how its done.

If thats too much man and maybe you cant even number close infront of people,get her facebook atleast.Message her a bit here n there and just tell her "hey lets hit up starbucks one day how about _____ OR whats your number lemme call you up someday and well chill"

One last thing,dont make a move just for the sake of making a move.If you dont feel your interaction is going well,dont bother even trying to ask her out because your chances of rejection will be alot higher
 

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Your lines are all too vague. You need to be more specific. Have a real plan (with specific date/time and location) and invite her to come along.
 
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"I'd like to get to know you a little better. Me and my friend are going to _______ on Saturday, would you like to tag along with us? My treat."

Has worked wonders for me. The presence of a friend makes it a little less awkward and helps you be the funnest you can be (friends get you pumped). Note- don't take this as a date though, because the presence of the friend negates this. This is a "get to know you" exercise. Towards the end, ask for a real date.

Obviously, this only works under certain circumstances, but I find it a fair technique.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?
This is not specific enough. You're the man, you're supposed to lead. Give them a place and a time, so all it comes down to is a 'yes' or 'no' from them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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