"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Talk about clueless! I don't even know the right way to ask a girl out!

nismo-4

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And the only ways I know of actually fail! Here are a few:

Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?

I don't use these lines after a string of rejections. Most times, since I don't know what to do, I either guess what I'm supposed to say (with awkward results), or I don't make a move at all. When I guess, I usually get laughed at by guys watching. When I don't move, I feel stupid. I lose either way of course.

How do some of you guys ask a girl out on a date, or just plain ask her out?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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619joe

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Your lines seem too forced and awkward."I wanna get together someday" is too direct bro and It wont work.

"Lets hang out sometime" is perfectly fine.If you follow it up with a number close then I dont see it failing.UNLESS your interaction with her was poor and you didnt make her feel completly comfortable around you then I could see you getting rejected.

In terms of guys watching,I dont give two flying ****'s infact now Id prefer if guys watch to see the how the pros do it.JK but you know what I mean based on the fact that if they wanna watch,show em how its done and just get the mindset in your head that they are "afc's wanting to learn" and you gotta teach em how its done.

If thats too much man and maybe you cant even number close infront of people,get her facebook atleast.Message her a bit here n there and just tell her "hey lets hit up starbucks one day how about _____ OR whats your number lemme call you up someday and well chill"

One last thing,dont make a move just for the sake of making a move.If you dont feel your interaction is going well,dont bother even trying to ask her out because your chances of rejection will be alot higher
 

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Your lines are all too vague. You need to be more specific. Have a real plan (with specific date/time and location) and invite her to come along.
 
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"I'd like to get to know you a little better. Me and my friend are going to _______ on Saturday, would you like to tag along with us? My treat."

Has worked wonders for me. The presence of a friend makes it a little less awkward and helps you be the funnest you can be (friends get you pumped). Note- don't take this as a date though, because the presence of the friend negates this. This is a "get to know you" exercise. Towards the end, ask for a real date.

Obviously, this only works under certain circumstances, but I find it a fair technique.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Let's hang out sometime!
I wanna get together someday!
Wanna go out?
This is not specific enough. You're the man, you're supposed to lead. Give them a place and a time, so all it comes down to is a 'yes' or 'no' from them.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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