Junior Sanz
Don Juan
How many of us make other people responsible for our happiness?
Ex. "if only she would have gotten here on time, i wouldnt be sitting here right now"
" If it wasnt for her stupid comment, i wouldnt have gotten mad in the first place"
you get my drift!
Dont you think thats putting A LOT if not a TON of responsibility on the other person when we make them responsible for OUR happiness?
Basically your saying: " i can't always be happy myself--but if your going to be with me, you'd better make me happy"
This leads to thoughts like......
"if only my GF or wife was this way" or "it makes me so mad when she acts that way"
Hence the " if only she were different, id be happier. its her that needs to change, NOT ME!"
HELLOOOOOOOOOO!!!???? KNOCK KNOCK?!? is anybody home???? Check it out!!! CANT YOU SEE?
THIS IS A VICIOUS CYCLE!!!! BUT ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE THIS!!!!!!!!!
***YOUR HAPPINESS DOES NOT LIE IN ANYONE ELSES HANDS BUT IN YOUR OWN!*****
You and you alone are RESPONSIBLE for making yourself happy!!!
when life or a relationship doesnt seem to be working, you need to MAKE a change or start to see things DIFFERENTLY!!
either:
1) make difficult choices?
2) have painful or difficult discussions
3) or COMPROMISE in some way
BUT SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!
Sure, your GF or wife should add to your HAPPINESS and be a part of it, but NOT CONTROL it!!! ya feel me?
By doing this your giving your partner a chance to be HUMAN!!! just like YOU are! mistakes will happen, words will be said.... guess what? BIG DEAL!! STOP and look at the BIG PICTURE!
ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING YOURSELF HAPPY!
Your partner doesnt CONTROL your every feeling...
PUT the RESPONSIBILITY for your OWN HAPPINESS where it belongs-------WITH YOU!!!!
~JOON
concept extracted from a book authored by richard carlson phd. & kristine carlson
Ex. "if only she would have gotten here on time, i wouldnt be sitting here right now"
" If it wasnt for her stupid comment, i wouldnt have gotten mad in the first place"
you get my drift!
Dont you think thats putting A LOT if not a TON of responsibility on the other person when we make them responsible for OUR happiness?
Basically your saying: " i can't always be happy myself--but if your going to be with me, you'd better make me happy"
This leads to thoughts like......
"if only my GF or wife was this way" or "it makes me so mad when she acts that way"
Hence the " if only she were different, id be happier. its her that needs to change, NOT ME!"
HELLOOOOOOOOOO!!!???? KNOCK KNOCK?!? is anybody home???? Check it out!!! CANT YOU SEE?
THIS IS A VICIOUS CYCLE!!!! BUT ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE THIS!!!!!!!!!
***YOUR HAPPINESS DOES NOT LIE IN ANYONE ELSES HANDS BUT IN YOUR OWN!*****
You and you alone are RESPONSIBLE for making yourself happy!!!
when life or a relationship doesnt seem to be working, you need to MAKE a change or start to see things DIFFERENTLY!!
either:
1) make difficult choices?
2) have painful or difficult discussions
3) or COMPROMISE in some way
BUT SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!
Sure, your GF or wife should add to your HAPPINESS and be a part of it, but NOT CONTROL it!!! ya feel me?
By doing this your giving your partner a chance to be HUMAN!!! just like YOU are! mistakes will happen, words will be said.... guess what? BIG DEAL!! STOP and look at the BIG PICTURE!
ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING YOURSELF HAPPY!
Your partner doesnt CONTROL your every feeling...
PUT the RESPONSIBILITY for your OWN HAPPINESS where it belongs-------WITH YOU!!!!
~JOON
concept extracted from a book authored by richard carlson phd. & kristine carlson
