Ok so I'm dating a girl she's wants something serious and she has kids so she wants a man she can bring around them etc. So we are taking it slow so I assume it's to be sure I ain't crazy especially if I'm gonna be around her daughter's. We go on dates have sex all that about once a week. When were with each other she's all over me super affectionate etc. My concerns are that here and there she may ignore a texts and we go a couple days no contact. I play it cool cause it's still early and I don't wanna be needy and clingy. We've already established that although we aren't bf/gf we only mess with each other. It's been hard since all my attention is on one girl I don't really have others to distract me from her and just give me that whole feeling of abundance. Don't get me wrong either although I got her on the mind a lot she doesn't know I keep it cool with her. I need some suggestions on how I can get in a more relaxed state of mind during these slow periods.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Desdinova
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Simple... Fvck other women while you're fvcking her.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
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He’s not being cold hearted. He’s giving you some real world advice.
Getting serious with a single mom is the road to frustration and financial drain. And this one already ignores your texts & goes no contact for a couple of days.
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I would keep it simple as she has kids to worry about so your going to be secondary to her. Just make it about having a date each week and the sex thing and that's it. She's tell you how she wants it in her actions, just read back what you wrote will tell you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I'm confuse , which one is the right one???
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Besides the fact that she's a single mommy it's an even bigger red flag that the father isn't in the picture. It gives you the broader picture of the type of man she decided to have kids with. Why exactly is he not in the picture? Don't actually ask her this....lol
Do yourself a favor and make this the last single mommy that you "date". Believe me you will thank yourself yrs later on down the road.