Ok so I'm dating a girl she's wants something serious and she has kids so she wants a man she can bring around them etc. So we are taking it slow so I assume it's to be sure I ain't crazy especially if I'm gonna be around her daughter's. We go on dates have sex all that about once a week. When were with each other she's all over me super affectionate etc. My concerns are that here and there she may ignore a texts and we go a couple days no contact. I play it cool cause it's still early and I don't wanna be needy and clingy. We've already established that although we aren't bf/gf we only mess with each other. It's been hard since all my attention is on one girl I don't really have others to distract me from her and just give me that whole feeling of abundance. Don't get me wrong either although I got her on the mind a lot she doesn't know I keep it cool with her. I need some suggestions on how I can get in a more relaxed state of mind during these slow periods.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
taking it slow
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Desdinova
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Simple... Fvck other women while you're fvcking her.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
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He’s not being cold hearted. He’s giving you some real world advice.
Getting serious with a single mom is the road to frustration and financial drain. And this one already ignores your texts & goes no contact for a couple of days.
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strikerace13
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I would keep it simple as she has kids to worry about so your going to be secondary to her. Just make it about having a date each week and the sex thing and that's it. She's tell you how she wants it in her actions, just read back what you wrote will tell you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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I'm confuse , which one is the right one???
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Besides the fact that she's a single mommy it's an even bigger red flag that the father isn't in the picture. It gives you the broader picture of the type of man she decided to have kids with. Why exactly is he not in the picture? Don't actually ask her this....lol
Do yourself a favor and make this the last single mommy that you "date". Believe me you will thank yourself yrs later on down the road.