Ok so I'm dating a girl she's wants something serious and she has kids so she wants a man she can bring around them etc. So we are taking it slow so I assume it's to be sure I ain't crazy especially if I'm gonna be around her daughter's. We go on dates have sex all that about once a week. When were with each other she's all over me super affectionate etc. My concerns are that here and there she may ignore a texts and we go a couple days no contact. I play it cool cause it's still early and I don't wanna be needy and clingy. We've already established that although we aren't bf/gf we only mess with each other. It's been hard since all my attention is on one girl I don't really have others to distract me from her and just give me that whole feeling of abundance. Don't get me wrong either although I got her on the mind a lot she doesn't know I keep it cool with her. I need some suggestions on how I can get in a more relaxed state of mind during these slow periods.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
taking it slow
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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Simple... Fvck other women while you're fvcking her.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
Also, this is a single mom. You will never be her priority. Her kids and the father of those kids will always be the priority before you. You are just a substitute with a wallet.
If I were you, I would NOT get seriously involved with her. You will never win with a single mom.
Augustus_McCrae
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He’s not being cold hearted. He’s giving you some real world advice.
Getting serious with a single mom is the road to frustration and financial drain. And this one already ignores your texts & goes no contact for a couple of days.
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I would keep it simple as she has kids to worry about so your going to be secondary to her. Just make it about having a date each week and the sex thing and that's it. She's tell you how she wants it in her actions, just read back what you wrote will tell you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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I'm confuse , which one is the right one???
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Besides the fact that she's a single mommy it's an even bigger red flag that the father isn't in the picture. It gives you the broader picture of the type of man she decided to have kids with. Why exactly is he not in the picture? Don't actually ask her this....lol
Do yourself a favor and make this the last single mommy that you "date". Believe me you will thank yourself yrs later on down the road.