"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Taking A Chance

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For some reason, idk why... Im really into this girl that I just met.(oh man I'm going to laugh at this some time in the future) I got to know her a bit and she is literraly my ideal girl for a gf. We both have many of the same qualities and I mean what I love to do, she would bring the same things up as well which is just crazy. Now we are just friends, but I want more than that.( please bare with me here)

You see... I'm never the kind of guy that have feelings like this for a girl, nervous to talk at times with her. Which NEVER happens when I'm talking to a girl, hot or not. I know I sound like an AFC, and won't blame you guys if you say so.

The reason why I'm making this post ia because I think I really can see myself having a really nice relationship with her, not to just lay her but a genuine bond.
I'm not sure how to tell her my feelings.

Do I just tell her directly or try and hangout with her more and then ask her out?
I know this sounds lame and AFC, I never thought I would be the one to act like this but it feels right.

Serious responses please, any that has gone through this.
I know I won't get hardly any responses but any help would be helpful.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It does sound AFC, but I understad you. I'm certainly not the most qualified person here to answer you, but I'll give you my input.

So you seem to want this chic, but you are nervous aroundd her. In most cases, to solve it, you have to spin more plates.

There are a lot of posts on how to get out of the friendzone, see if you can find some. Never ask her to be your gf, but do act as you are not just her friend. Make her change the way she sees you. Kino more, request to go out alone etc.

Good luck!
 
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If you know her a bit, you're not in the friend zone... yet.

I really wish I could tell you exactly what to do, but you are going to have to trust your gut.

As for telling her how you feel, don't say it with words say it with your actions.
Touch her, smile at her, KISS THE GIRL for cryin out loud! If you feel this way about her chances are she feels the same about you.

One little quote to remember-

"Most girls, no matter how bold, will not be the one to make a move"

-Mr.P
 
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