Even folks, I'm looking for some advice regarding having the worst spell of golf I've played in years, I've been playing for 22 years since I was 10 years old, last year I managed to get my handicap to +1 this year is started at scratch and now my handicap is up to 2, the standard of golf I have been playing this year is dreadful struggling to beat 7 or 8 over par, this is having a huge effect on my relationship with my gf as I'm coming home in a mood and can't shake it, I can't adapt from being a good golfer to a hacker in the space of 8 weeks I've tried everything but nothing is working, I'm not enjoying it anymore feels like a grind than enjoying it, has anyone been in this situation and quit the sport they love cold turkey as Its hurting to much and as I said having an effect on my relationship.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Take a break from golf or quit?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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You gotta wash your balls
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Are you being paid money to play golf? If not, it's just a hobby and it shouldn't be of that much importance on your life, IMO.
Everyone goes through rough patches and as you get older your skills will naturally start to decline. Perhaps that's the reason. Father Time is undefeated, even for relatively unathletic games like golf.
Everyone goes through rough patches and as you get older your skills will naturally start to decline. Perhaps that's the reason. Father Time is undefeated, even for relatively unathletic games like golf.
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2011 I was playing to a 2 handicap. Had a very bad golf trip... lost my game.... literally ruined the entire trip. I did not recover from that trip and breakdown until 2017. From 2011 until 2017 I played to a 13-16 handicap and began to hate golf.
one day I went out on a beautiful evening and didn’t keep score. I wasn’t playing with anyone... it felt like I was in heaven. Next thing I know my ball striking was improving and I had the mental clarity to dissect what was going wrong with my swing and game.
I wouldn’t take a break from golf I would take a break from the unreal expectations your putting on yourself. Pro golfers are plus 5 and much better.... they often shoot in the 80’s.... and they are pro’s... that have the best coaches, play the best courses, have custom equipment we can’t touch, have the best head coaches.,.. so you need to just get back to enjoying whatever you used to with the game. The more at peace I am... the better I play and right now your heading down the path I went in 2011.
one day I went out on a beautiful evening and didn’t keep score. I wasn’t playing with anyone... it felt like I was in heaven. Next thing I know my ball striking was improving and I had the mental clarity to dissect what was going wrong with my swing and game.
I wouldn’t take a break from golf I would take a break from the unreal expectations your putting on yourself. Pro golfers are plus 5 and much better.... they often shoot in the 80’s.... and they are pro’s... that have the best coaches, play the best courses, have custom equipment we can’t touch, have the best head coaches.,.. so you need to just get back to enjoying whatever you used to with the game. The more at peace I am... the better I play and right now your heading down the path I went in 2011.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Any Hobby you excel at will have this happen. You hit a certain level and then drop off in performance. "The shanks", "target panic", "exhaustion syndrome" all happen when you are at the top of your game and start thinking about it too much. you need to find new ways to train because your body and mind are adapted to your routine and expectations. You have to change it up so you are trying to do something you haven't excelled at yet. Add strength training to your endurance, change up your target training, do different drills.
Good point above about not keeping score for a while. Focus on feel of the shot. Find the joy in the execution that you had when you were a raw beginner...
Good point above about not keeping score for a while. Focus on feel of the shot. Find the joy in the execution that you had when you were a raw beginner...
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Or you simply get older and start losing ability just like any athlete does, even tho golf is not on that level of athletic ness...you still have reduction in some facets that would translate over.
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It could help to take a break from the sport, and you might be surprised to find that your game is better after taking a short break.
Also, you're going to plateau for a while before you make a major breakthru, but if you keep at it you'll eventually break thru. There are no shortcuts to mastery.
Also, you're going to plateau for a while before you make a major breakthru, but if you keep at it you'll eventually break thru. There are no shortcuts to mastery.