Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Symmetry Issues After Cutting

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Well boys, safe to say I'm winning the battle of the bulge here, however I am noticing 2 issues, that being my shoulders are over trained, I don't have overdeveloped traps, I still have a neck, but they are very thick and I didn't think my head was going to slim down in the way it did.

Furthermore, my legs are already significantly built out beyond my obliques and I still have belly fat to lose, that portion is going to get bad, but the ladies don't seem to mind so far.

So from here, I'm not sure if I should just embrace the muscle and get stupid jacked and say **** the symmetry or I can cut down from 3500 OMAD to 1500 OMAD, the thing is I can't dictate where my muscle mass is lost, my arms are under trained.

Ill include pics of what I feel is the overdeveloped parts later on today, but the symmetry is already not great and again it's only gonna get worse from here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
 

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
 

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I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
TDEE is an estimation of your daily required calories to maintain your weight. It's based on your height, weight, age, and level of physical activity. Once you determine your TDEE, you can add or subtract calories to that number to cut or bulk.

Cutting 500 calories from your daily TDEE is generally 1 pound of weight loss a week. 1000 calories is 2 pounds, etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are you looking towards bodybuilding as a serious hobby that pays or a profession?

If not, I wouldn't fret over this. Just stay healthy, try being shredded and fit.

Good job on being focused on yourself.
 
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