"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Symmetry Issues After Cutting

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Well boys, safe to say I'm winning the battle of the bulge here, however I am noticing 2 issues, that being my shoulders are over trained, I don't have overdeveloped traps, I still have a neck, but they are very thick and I didn't think my head was going to slim down in the way it did.

Furthermore, my legs are already significantly built out beyond my obliques and I still have belly fat to lose, that portion is going to get bad, but the ladies don't seem to mind so far.

So from here, I'm not sure if I should just embrace the muscle and get stupid jacked and say **** the symmetry or I can cut down from 3500 OMAD to 1500 OMAD, the thing is I can't dictate where my muscle mass is lost, my arms are under trained.

Ill include pics of what I feel is the overdeveloped parts later on today, but the symmetry is already not great and again it's only gonna get worse from here.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
 

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
 

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I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
TDEE is an estimation of your daily required calories to maintain your weight. It's based on your height, weight, age, and level of physical activity. Once you determine your TDEE, you can add or subtract calories to that number to cut or bulk.

Cutting 500 calories from your daily TDEE is generally 1 pound of weight loss a week. 1000 calories is 2 pounds, etc.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are you looking towards bodybuilding as a serious hobby that pays or a profession?

If not, I wouldn't fret over this. Just stay healthy, try being shredded and fit.

Good job on being focused on yourself.
 
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