"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Symmetry Issues After Cutting

CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Well boys, safe to say I'm winning the battle of the bulge here, however I am noticing 2 issues, that being my shoulders are over trained, I don't have overdeveloped traps, I still have a neck, but they are very thick and I didn't think my head was going to slim down in the way it did.

Furthermore, my legs are already significantly built out beyond my obliques and I still have belly fat to lose, that portion is going to get bad, but the ladies don't seem to mind so far.

So from here, I'm not sure if I should just embrace the muscle and get stupid jacked and say **** the symmetry or I can cut down from 3500 OMAD to 1500 OMAD, the thing is I can't dictate where my muscle mass is lost, my arms are under trained.

Ill include pics of what I feel is the overdeveloped parts later on today, but the symmetry is already not great and again it's only gonna get worse from here.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
 

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At 3500, are you in a caloric deficit in regards to your TDEE? A 2k cut in calories is a huge drop. I'd figure out your TDEE, and start off 500 calories under that. Focus on just upper body and cutting for awhile. Do low intensity cardio 3x a week to promote fat loss and give your legs a break.
I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
 

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I haven't been doing any cardio at all outside of using TANK to do high intensity, 15-20 seconds of activation and I'm ready to fall over gassed.

This is first time I've ever heard of TDEE, however I always go to failure, at least an 9 intensity in everything I do at the gym, if I can still walk leg day ain't over
TDEE is an estimation of your daily required calories to maintain your weight. It's based on your height, weight, age, and level of physical activity. Once you determine your TDEE, you can add or subtract calories to that number to cut or bulk.

Cutting 500 calories from your daily TDEE is generally 1 pound of weight loss a week. 1000 calories is 2 pounds, etc.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Are you looking towards bodybuilding as a serious hobby that pays or a profession?

If not, I wouldn't fret over this. Just stay healthy, try being shredded and fit.

Good job on being focused on yourself.
 
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