Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Hey I'm goign to start swimming. Now, I will need your help in making a good beginner's swimming routine. Thanks. Easy on the stroke variations please . . .
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Wow thanks so much. This is exactly what I've been looking for. I remember as a kid we kinda did stuff like this, but I like how you kept the strokes to freestyle because that's my best stroke. Worst would be back stroke because my right shoulder has to twist weird if I wanna make a good rotation. Anyhow, thanks again and I will put this into motion. That should take me a good 30 minutes or so.Originally posted by naoi deag se deag
Well, if you want to burn calories, swimming the whole time straight will do that. But that gets helluva boring. You should break it up something like this:
300 warmup
5x100 freestyle on an interval that gets your heart rate a little higher
4x50 any stroke hard
200 50 kick on your back 50 easy swimming
4x25 any stroke hard
200 warmdown
That's 1500m. I dunno how long that would take you but I think you get the idea. I assume you understand interval training if you swam around the age of 10? Let me know how this fits you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
kewl thanx man... sh0t for the info and the linkOriginally posted by naoi deag se deag
Try this:
Put your arm over your head and try to reach the ceiling. Lift your arm from your shoulder complex and then drop it. Translate that to the pool - when you're reaching for the ceiling with your shoulder complex, you're going to be hyperextending your shoulder. When the catch phase of the stroke starts you'll be putting a lot of pressure on your shoulder in that spot. Concentrate on reaching "from your hips", that is, getting your arm as far out in front of you by swimming as much on your side as you can when you roll.
Damn this is hard to explain online. When I coached I took three weeks at the start of each season to teach my kids how to do this right. www.swim.ee is a good place to go - it has a lot of footage of the best doing their thing.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.