Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Hey I'm goign to start swimming. Now, I will need your help in making a good beginner's swimming routine. Thanks. Easy on the stroke variations please . . .
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Wow thanks so much. This is exactly what I've been looking for. I remember as a kid we kinda did stuff like this, but I like how you kept the strokes to freestyle because that's my best stroke. Worst would be back stroke because my right shoulder has to twist weird if I wanna make a good rotation. Anyhow, thanks again and I will put this into motion. That should take me a good 30 minutes or so.Originally posted by naoi deag se deag
Well, if you want to burn calories, swimming the whole time straight will do that. But that gets helluva boring. You should break it up something like this:
300 warmup
5x100 freestyle on an interval that gets your heart rate a little higher
4x50 any stroke hard
200 50 kick on your back 50 easy swimming
4x25 any stroke hard
200 warmdown
That's 1500m. I dunno how long that would take you but I think you get the idea. I assume you understand interval training if you swam around the age of 10? Let me know how this fits you.
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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
kewl thanx man... sh0t for the info and the linkOriginally posted by naoi deag se deag
Try this:
Put your arm over your head and try to reach the ceiling. Lift your arm from your shoulder complex and then drop it. Translate that to the pool - when you're reaching for the ceiling with your shoulder complex, you're going to be hyperextending your shoulder. When the catch phase of the stroke starts you'll be putting a lot of pressure on your shoulder in that spot. Concentrate on reaching "from your hips", that is, getting your arm as far out in front of you by swimming as much on your side as you can when you roll.
Damn this is hard to explain online. When I coached I took three weeks at the start of each season to teach my kids how to do this right. www.swim.ee is a good place to go - it has a lot of footage of the best doing their thing.
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