"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The reality is this:
You need to learn how to converse well.
That's it.

Kino, patterns, and whatever WILL NOT work if you cannot hold an above average conversation.

Now when I mean "above average" I do not picture someone mumbling, stuttering, shy, sweaty, lacking "confidence". I picture it to be like talking to your best friend, shooting the breeze.

When you're in public, what do you hear?
People talking!

How about drama shows?
People talking!

What about in the bathrooms?
People!

Conversing is your bread and butter.
Every other "move" is supplemental.

It's like taking creatine.
You NEED to work out. It is a primary thing to get big. Taking creatine helps you get a bit bigger only if you work out. Taking creatine and sitting on your as$ does not make you huge.

But what to say?

Why is it that you can always find something to talk about with your best friend, but not that hot girl you've always eyed?

Think about it. What makes this girl so intimidating before you've even talked to her? Rejection? I'm pretty sure you don't think your best friend is going to reject you when you guys are talking.

It is you who is making the situation unconfortable. Make it stop.

Experience is the best way to start.

Once again...

Kino, smiling, cologne are not miracle workers.

Your words are.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A bore is someone who talks about himself, a gossip is someone who talks about others, a great CONVERSATIONALIST is someone who talks to you about YOU!

Read that again. You want to have a genuine interest in the person you're talking to.

Also want to add that you have to be a good listener. It's the other half of conversing. Don't know what it's like?

Look at this disscusion board.
People post (Talk)
Readers listen (Listen)
Readers reply (Talk)
Posters listen (Listen)
 
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Originally posted by *29*

Look at this disscusion board.
People post (Talk)
Readers listen (Listen)
Readers reply (Talk)
Posters listen (Listen)
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More like

People post (talk)
More people post (talk)
More people post (talk)

:p

Also, what about the fact that the things women want to talk about are usually utterly boring and trivial?
 
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Then she's probably boring and is wasting your time, but I haven't seen too many like this. Unless you're trying to fvck her for her looks, then....you know.
 
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When you're in public, what do you hear?
People talking!

How about drama shows?
People talking!

What about in the bathrooms?
People!
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I think that conversation is key but I do my best not to hear people in bathrooms. That's not conversation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Originally posted by *29*
A bore is someone who talks about himself, a gossip is someone who talks about others, a great CONVERSATIONALIST is someone who talks to you about YOU!
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Perfect!

(Yours?)
 
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