"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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undesputable

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well school is almost out, and ill be getting a job. I was thinking about getting a job in a construction company, but i thought about it, and asked myself how many kids my age do this kinda job?

aside from working at a store as a cashier or work in a fast food restaurant, what else do people my age get jobs in?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Touqen

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If you can find a job that's not retail "GO FOR IT", unless you are a social misfit then getting a retail job is good therapy as you are forced to interact with people. Especially if it's a clothing store a la Gap or Banana Republic. I currently work retail and I hate it. It pays the bills though.


-- Touqen
 

Luveno

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The lowest form of employment, even lower than retail, is telemarketing.

Sure, the pay is decent - well above minimum wage, actually.

However, you are the bottom rung of a company that does not know your name. your supervisors do not know your name. You just make calls and try to sell things until they see it fit to lay you off.

Even if you work hard and have a high sales record, it doesn't matter because they won't write reference letters. You are nothing there.

DO NOT WORK AT A CALL CENTRE!
 

Julian

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LOL luveno.

I have been contemplating working at a call center. But ive done it before and it sucks balls. i only lasted 3 weeks.

But hey its probably better then some sh1tty factory work.
 

Jake-inator

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Get a job at a country club / golf course.
Laid back + a bit of social therapy.

I'm also applying for a retail position at Blockbuster :rolleyes: b/c i didn't get enough hours for the summer.

That's gonna suck.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LowPlainsDrifter

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My biggest regret is settling for retail jobs during high school and college.
With a little bit of moxie, I could have gotten office or other jobs paying far better.
My suggestion: register with a temp agency, especially one that has in-house training on various PC skills (Word, Excel, Powerpoint) so you can learn on their dime and become more valuable.
As for polishing social skills, I have to admit, few things beat the retail environment, especially if it's a nice department store.
 
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