Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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undesputable

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well school is almost out, and ill be getting a job. I was thinking about getting a job in a construction company, but i thought about it, and asked myself how many kids my age do this kinda job?

aside from working at a store as a cashier or work in a fast food restaurant, what else do people my age get jobs in?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Touqen

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If you can find a job that's not retail "GO FOR IT", unless you are a social misfit then getting a retail job is good therapy as you are forced to interact with people. Especially if it's a clothing store a la Gap or Banana Republic. I currently work retail and I hate it. It pays the bills though.


-- Touqen
 

Luveno

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The lowest form of employment, even lower than retail, is telemarketing.

Sure, the pay is decent - well above minimum wage, actually.

However, you are the bottom rung of a company that does not know your name. your supervisors do not know your name. You just make calls and try to sell things until they see it fit to lay you off.

Even if you work hard and have a high sales record, it doesn't matter because they won't write reference letters. You are nothing there.

DO NOT WORK AT A CALL CENTRE!
 

Julian

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LOL luveno.

I have been contemplating working at a call center. But ive done it before and it sucks balls. i only lasted 3 weeks.

But hey its probably better then some sh1tty factory work.
 

Jake-inator

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Get a job at a country club / golf course.
Laid back + a bit of social therapy.

I'm also applying for a retail position at Blockbuster :rolleyes: b/c i didn't get enough hours for the summer.

That's gonna suck.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LowPlainsDrifter

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My biggest regret is settling for retail jobs during high school and college.
With a little bit of moxie, I could have gotten office or other jobs paying far better.
My suggestion: register with a temp agency, especially one that has in-house training on various PC skills (Word, Excel, Powerpoint) so you can learn on their dime and become more valuable.
As for polishing social skills, I have to admit, few things beat the retail environment, especially if it's a nice department store.
 
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