"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What's a better time to get this woman stuff handled than over the summer holidays?

The original bootcamp can be downloaded here: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf

Assignments:
You will have ONE week from when they are assigned to complete along with TWO weekends.

Assignments will be given on Thursdays, but week 1 is subject to be posted earlier.

You will have until the NEXT SUNDAY NIGHT to complete them.

For example if an assignment is posted on Thursday, you have until not next Thursday but the Sunday afterward to complete it and post your Field Report.

This bootcamp will be conducted similarly to this one: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=191043

The leaders are as follows, in particular order of leading:
AlexLefty : Week 1
Jack Wealthy : Week 2
LearningSlowly : Week 3
NorwegianDJ : Week 4
Nino : Week 5
BPH : Week 6
Eastcoast : Week 7
TheVirtualMind : Week 8

This will be the main post. Each week will get a seperate post and will be linked to from here.

Bonus assignments or 1-step-up challenges may be assigned each week. I, myself will make sure to reward anyone that go above and beyond. There shall be reps for the winner of each week, the writer of the best FR, most girls pulled in this period, and for whoever gets a GF or two.

This post is subject to change.

Week 1 - Fvck it
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nino-Tk said:
Geez, I might be going for a Maxillofacial surgery on Thursday, sh*it takes 6 weeks to heal...got an underbite, but I'm going to the Orthodontic tomorrow, I shall confirm...I apologize for the inconvenience but my dad coerced me to follow through with it.
Very chilled. What exactly are you doing? I can put you in charge later in the bootcamp if you'd like.
 

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Well the long and short of it is, I'm getting my jaw shifted a couple of centimeters back, its been causing me migraines and all, and from my side view, one can see I've got a long jaw.

I'm kinda scared, it might change how my face looks...there is 5-10% chance my lower lip and chip will be permamnently numb! Gums too! But I will let you know, for now, perhaps it would be wise to get someone in my place.
 

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Nino-Tk said:
Well the long and short of it is, I'm getting my jaw shifted a couple of centimeters back, its been causing me migraines and all, and from my side view, one can see I've got a long jaw.

I'm kinda scared, it might change how my face looks...there is 5-10% chance my lower lip and chip will be permamnently numb! Gums too! But I will let you know, for now, perhaps it would be wise to get someone in my place.
Ouch. Perhaps you'll end up better. We'll take it as it comes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It seems that the leaders are the only ones participating. Hahaha
 

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I'm in France now, don't have Internet acces, can I start 1st July?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why is no one posting FRs?!?
 

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I posted FRs myself, even with videos
Most of people that joined the bootcamp quited after the 1st week. I believe that the 2nd week was a big leap for the average people. It's like jumping from normal conversation to going directly sexual. It's not impossible but it's clearly not very easy! I think that it should've been more progressive. If week 3 is going for the kiss, what's week 8? Making love within 5 minutes of conversation? Hahahaha

Anyway, I'll still try to catch up on week 2 and hopefully do week 3.
 

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Mindgamez said:
I posted FRs myself, even with videos
Most of people that joined the bootcamp quited after the 1st week. I believe that the 2nd week was a big leap for the average people. It's like jumping from normal conversation to going directly sexual. It's not impossible but it's clearly not very easy! I think that it should've been more progressive. If week 3 is going for the kiss, what's week 8? Making love within 5 minutes of conversation? Hahahaha

Anyway, I'll still try to catch up on week 2 and hopefully do week 3.
Where?
/if it's in your journal, post them in the weeks where they are supposed to be
AlexLefty said:
Why is no one posting FRs?!?
@NDJ @TheVirtualMind @BPH @LS @JW
 

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Where?
/if it's in your journal, post them in the weeks where they are supposed to be

@TheVirtualMind
Point being? I never said I was a participant, just a leader in it.
 

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Mindgamez said:
If week 3 is going for the kiss, what's week 8? Making love within 5 minutes of conversation? Hahahaha
The way I see it, going for a kiss is literally the only important thing about a Day 2 meet up. And if you managed to get numbers over the first 2 weeks (Mindgamez, maybe you were the only one who has) then now is the time to start setting up Day 2's.

I don't have FR's up because I haven't done approaches, I've been in Israel, where they don't speak english. I'm going approaching today and Wednesday at least. I'm working on setting up dates for my own challenge this week (but got shot down by my main 2 options. Guess I gotta go meet new girls).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheVirtualMind said:
Point being? I never said I was a participant, just a leader in it.
I feel as if you should participate if you're going to lead.
 

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AlexLefty said:
I feel as if you should participate if you're going to lead.
I, however, do not. Especially since I'm *cough* years older than everyone participating anyway.
 

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TheVirtualMind said:
I, however, do not. Especially since I'm *cough* years older than everyone participating anyway.
HOW old r u??
 

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What happened? Everybody quitted...
Seems pretty lame to me. Also, the leaders don't even participate so what's the point?
 

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Mindgamez said:
What happened? Everybody quitted...
Seems pretty lame to me. Also, the leaders don't even participate so what's the point?
exactly
i'm still in
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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