"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sudden unavailability from her?

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Couple months it's been going great. We take turns and cook for each other then have mad rough sex. The last time she messaged me after saying she has a week of consecutive shifts at work and won't be available. But then is spending her free time posting on social media catching up with her girlfriends. She'll message me at least once each day to 'check up' on me almost.

So whats she playing at? I'm not sure how to proceed. I've given her space and only reply when she messages.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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soulforge

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Sounds like she is in it for the SEX if and when SHE needs it.. When things get busy in her life, YOUR out of the picture son!

I would step back and have very little contact with her.. A girl that is REALLY into you, will try her best to keep in touch and meeting because you doesn't want to fuk a GOOD thing up!

Take a step back, and let her miss you!
 
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Leaf said:
Couple months it's been going great. We take turns and cook for each other then have mad rough sex. The last time she messaged me after saying she has a week of consecutive shifts at work and won't be available. But then is spending her free time posting on social media catching up with her girlfriends. She'll message me at least once each day to 'check up' on me almost.

So whats she playing at? I'm not sure how to proceed. I've given her space and only reply when she messages.
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She has a busy work week, in between she chats with her girlfriends. Why is that a problem?

Seems perfectly normal to me.
 
wifehunter

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To her, you are a low priority. Her man, should always be at the top.

I'd walk away, physically and mentally. And if she messaged me, I'd keep my answers to 'one word' yes, no, maybe, etc.

Show her you don't give a sh!t.

Go out and meet other women.
 
marmel75

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Spaz said:
She has a busy work week, in between she chats with her girlfriends. Why is that a problem?

Seems perfectly normal to me.
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OP needs to find other ways to fill his time than texting her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Here's the thing man. If a woman isn't complaining that you don't spend enough time with her, it means you're doing it wrong.

You can't be sitting around worrying what the hoe you're fuking is doing all day. That shyt is feminine.
 
Tilex

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What's the big deal?
You aren't married to her. You don't need to check up on her 24/7.

Believe it or not, people like to read their emails before going to bed.
 
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