"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Successful Gym Approach

New2Town

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So two days ago, I went to the gym in my apartment complex and when I got in, I saw an immediate IOI from a HB7, a nice looking Spanish girl. She was working out on the treadmill and I just began lifting.

After a set, she walks by to a machine, and I motion for her to take out her ear buds on her IPod. I notice she has a Minnesota Twins shirt on and I ask her if she was a Twins fan.

Me: Hey, are you a Twins fan or are you just wearing the shirt?
HB7: Actually, it's my boy-ex-boyfriend's shirt (she quickly corrected her mistake). I love it because it's soft.
Me: Well, there goes my idea to talk sports with you.
HB7: Well, actually, I am a huge Spurs fan. My friends and I have named all of our pets after Spurs players and blah blah blah.
Me: Oh ok, that's awesome. I am actually going to be writing about the Spurs for a local newspaper (DHV).
HB7: No way! I am so jealous of you.
Me: What can I say?

I put my IPod back on and I begin working out again and I catch occasional glances from her out of the corner of my eye. I see she is about to leave, but I motion to her to come over to me.

Me: Hey, I'll tell you what. Give me your number, and then I'll call you and maybe you can tell me some questions to ask the players.
HB7: Really? That would be awesome.
Me: I'll just put my number in your phone and give mine a call.

She hands me her phone, and I plug my number in and call my phone. We left it off pretty good and she leaves and I continue to work out.

Now, this happened on Tuesday, so I figure I'll give her a call tomorrow afternoon (Thursday) to try to see if she has any questions for the players. I'll also try to see if she wants to hang out tomorrow night.

Thoughts on the approach and ensuing plan?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wiggamonkey

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hey man-- an approach that good and no one has given you props??? weird

way to go!
 

Lord Shinra

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Thats actually a good approach. I got to find out when the girls go to my gym more. Usually when I go, theres a few but nothing that has caught my eye:mad:

But good job man, keep going.
 

regular_guy

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That was very casual. Thats awesome, I am always qurious how to go about approaching at the gym. Seems like a casual conversation is just the thing.
 

DismantleRepair

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Good work, you got the digits. But are you sure she doesn't just want to use you to get to the Spurs?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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