"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Successful Gym Approach

New2Town

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So two days ago, I went to the gym in my apartment complex and when I got in, I saw an immediate IOI from a HB7, a nice looking Spanish girl. She was working out on the treadmill and I just began lifting.

After a set, she walks by to a machine, and I motion for her to take out her ear buds on her IPod. I notice she has a Minnesota Twins shirt on and I ask her if she was a Twins fan.

Me: Hey, are you a Twins fan or are you just wearing the shirt?
HB7: Actually, it's my boy-ex-boyfriend's shirt (she quickly corrected her mistake). I love it because it's soft.
Me: Well, there goes my idea to talk sports with you.
HB7: Well, actually, I am a huge Spurs fan. My friends and I have named all of our pets after Spurs players and blah blah blah.
Me: Oh ok, that's awesome. I am actually going to be writing about the Spurs for a local newspaper (DHV).
HB7: No way! I am so jealous of you.
Me: What can I say?

I put my IPod back on and I begin working out again and I catch occasional glances from her out of the corner of my eye. I see she is about to leave, but I motion to her to come over to me.

Me: Hey, I'll tell you what. Give me your number, and then I'll call you and maybe you can tell me some questions to ask the players.
HB7: Really? That would be awesome.
Me: I'll just put my number in your phone and give mine a call.

She hands me her phone, and I plug my number in and call my phone. We left it off pretty good and she leaves and I continue to work out.

Now, this happened on Tuesday, so I figure I'll give her a call tomorrow afternoon (Thursday) to try to see if she has any questions for the players. I'll also try to see if she wants to hang out tomorrow night.

Thoughts on the approach and ensuing plan?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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wiggamonkey

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hey man-- an approach that good and no one has given you props??? weird

way to go!
 

Lord Shinra

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Thats actually a good approach. I got to find out when the girls go to my gym more. Usually when I go, theres a few but nothing that has caught my eye:mad:

But good job man, keep going.
 

regular_guy

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That was very casual. Thats awesome, I am always qurious how to go about approaching at the gym. Seems like a casual conversation is just the thing.
 

DismantleRepair

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Good work, you got the digits. But are you sure she doesn't just want to use you to get to the Spurs?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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