success story+question

[Mr.Speed]

hi guys,

here is the introduction: I am meeting this girl, with who I was in elementary school, back when I was 7 years old she hated me in the past, and I had no chance as a little boy. I got in touch with her and I have been out with her for 3 times. as a matter of fact, she thinks now that I am pretty sexy and attractive (she is 23 now).

anyway, the last time I was out with her we went to a nice cafe and afterwards for a walk (she wanted to walk), I knew exactly what she wanted

so there we were, walking around and talking,then I decided to take the initiative and we stoped.. I looked into her eyes,smiled and went for a nice and long kiss.

she was completly shocked and got pretty nervous
I asked her what was wrong (I was pretty calm and cool), she just replied, that she had not forseen that this would happen. since then, we were holding hands,cuddled and kissed.

now to my question: she had birthday on october the 4th, I dated her the last time on october the 5th, I had no present, since I didn`t knew if it would be wussyish to give her gifts in the early run.

she invited me on thursday to visit her at home and "watch a movie" with her, of course we all know, that she doesn`t really want to watch a movie

I had in mind, to show up at her place with a single red rose (kind of romantic stuff) and maybe a small present for her.

do you think it is a good idea to give her a small present or even a rose? :flowers: should I show up blank?

thanks for your help

 

[Sosa]

If she's the type of female that's even hinted at some sort of gift-I wouldn't get her anything-If YOU FEEL you wanna get her something small-1 flower etc.-that's up to you-just nothing that would cost maybe more than $5-10 depending on where you live

 

[Michael Chief]

i think a small "thoughtful" gift would be more than enough for a present. I dont think you'll be needing that rose.

but, in the end, it all comes down to your personal style.

ask yourself, "is this something an attractive and confident Mr.Speed would do?"

 

[Mr.Speed]

one time we where phoning, and somehow we got to the topic: gifts. she told me that she ist not a materialist and therefore does not need stuff, but of course she feels happy if you decide to give her present.

 

[Michael Chief]

if you get her something small and memorable from when yall were in elementary school, i bet that'll make her all warm and tingly on the inside. and by inside i mean more than one kind of "inside" ;-)

 

[Mr.Speed]

I could give her a photo, but chances are high that she has got that photo also, because our teacher used to give copies of the photos to all classmates.

maybe I could combine the single red rose,with that photo. it just gets embarassing,when she tells me, that she already has that photo

 

[Michael Chief]

Well, if you want to give her that photo, i suggest you get creative with it. turn it into an artsy thing, perhaps? It may or may not be a good idea, but hell im just throwing out ideas. For my birthday, my gf made me a book of "memories" and put various things from various dates weve had like tickets and things. She used some fancy paper and stuff like that, and put a picture of her that i liked in the front. You REALLY shouldn't get that complicated for a gift so early on, but maybe that visualization can help open a door in your mind for a better idea more appropriate for your situation. good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[Mr.Speed]

thanks for your help,grim999.

I think I have to "throw some dice" about a creative idea, but maybe the rose isn't that bad anyway. I mean, if I don't come up with a fancy idea, I will give her a atleast a flower.

 

[BacardiGuy]

How about just a card... and sign it "The man of your dreams"

 

[Mr.Speed]

I think that would be too arrogant

 

[Mr.Speed]

oh, one more question to you guys:

in my first post (in this thread), you can read my small succes story. I was wondering all the time: everytime we phone or text/email each other, it is pretty formal, like just hi, planning the dates, take care and bye.

is this a good sign? could it be,that she is just shy? since I made her pretty nervous and excited the last time, by the way, our texting/phoning,was always pretty formal and smalltalk-like. no emotional stuff so far.

or is it just evolivng at this time?

 

[zerocelcius]

Don't do flowers! Use those later when she least expects it and deserves them. Get her something perishable. Make it match the infancy of your relationship but reflects on when she hated you in elementary school. It will show you actually thought about it and it isn't too serious.

You shocked her with the kiss and now you have to keep shocking her!!

Keep everything simple and let her expand on it. (IE. texts, phone).

When the time comes to be a bleeding heart do it after you two have had a few drinks. That way if you go to far you can blame it on the alcohol.

NO FLOWERS!

:flowers: :nono:

 

[Mr.Speed]

@ zerocelcius: the problem is, there was never something taht connected us in elemantary school, therefore I really do not have a clue what perishable to give to her, instead of a rose (which is by the way perishable too).

one more thing, she has a 2 year old boy. yup, thats right she got pregnant 2 years ago, therefore I was wondering to bring him a small teddy-bear, since it is a good trick, to get to her heart by her son, plus it would look really stupid to give something to her, but not to her son.

 

[zerocelcius]

Good call with the boy!

Rose is to.. Love! I wouldn't get a flower... but that is me. I would go for something like a bath set. That way she associates those magical bath moments with you. Not a dead flower.

I was just trying to give you advice like you asked for. Being cynical was a bit uncalled for.

Buana Fourtuna~!

 

[Mr.Speed]

@zero: the idea with the bath set ist brilliant, its kind of erotical too , but do you think it is not,umm.. some sort of insulting,like the meaning: "get a bath!", you know?

thanks for your help

 

[unorthodox]

How about you give her a bottle? Vodka, or if you want to be more original Konyak (if you can find it). Show up with a bottle under your arm and go heeeey, and show it to her. It's ok to give a bottle, since you both gonna drink it right then probably. It's kinda like giving girl a lingirie.

 

[Mr.Speed]

are you serious with that?? oO

 

[unorthodox]

Why not? She's not a drinker?

 

[Mr.Speed]

not really..

 

[zerocelcius]

never give booze on as a first gift!