Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Great job, the first one is the hardest. Keep at it and you will be well into the multi's in a few years.Officially a millionaire!
I completed the end of month review and hit the elusive 7 figures. Had to widen the column on my excel spreadsheet.
It hasn't been any major win but really a series of small victories accumulated over time and avoiding any losses that would completely wipe me out.
The next step is for me to accelerate my career progression (looking into business schools). I set aside my career in favour of FIRE and now I've actually reached FI I've realised RE definitely isn't for me right now. I love the hustle too much!
55% Real Estate
20% Crypto and Equities
15% Cash
10% Ownership stake in private business
Real Estate valuations and private business stakes are conservative. The latter is currently being held at book value rather than any sort of multiple.
NW sits at $1,067,714.
Possibly my last post here as I accomplished what I set out to achieve from this thread when I started it in 2017 with a NW of c. $25k - $50k. Grateful for all the help and advice received and hopefully someone else might be able to learn or be inspired from the experiences I've written about over the years.
Ciao!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Congats man! You beat the odds! But I wouldn’t EXpect anything else!Officially a millionaire!
I completed the end of month review and hit the elusive 7 figures. Had to widen the column on my excel spreadsheet.
It hasn't been any major win but really a series of small victories accumulated over time and avoiding any losses that would completely wipe me out.
The next step is for me to accelerate my career progression (looking into business schools). I set aside my career in favour of FIRE and now I've actually reached FI I've realised RE definitely isn't for me right now. I love the hustle too much!
55% Real Estate
20% Crypto and Equities
15% Cash
10% Ownership stake in private business
Real Estate valuations and private business stakes are conservative. The latter is currently being held at book value rather than any sort of multiple.
NW sits at $1,067,714.
Possibly my last post here as I accomplished what I set out to achieve from this thread when I started it in 2017 with a NW of c. $25k - $50k. Grateful for all the help and advice received and hopefully someone else might be able to learn or be inspired from the experiences I've written about over the years.
Ciao!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I was just having this type of conversation with a friend yesterday at lunch, we both started business's around the same time and were reminiscing about our early struggles and how much things have changed financially. He was telling me a story how he went BK over a 15k debt in the early 2000's because it seemed impossible to pay off, he is probably worth north of 30M now. Pretty wild how quickly things compound once you start building momentum. Around a million seems to be that escape velocity threshold were you really start accumulating wealth quickly, Wish you much continued success.Going to start using this thread to journal again as reading through some of my old posts from years ago was eye opening. You can sometimes forget the struggle and all the incremental small wins after the moments have passed.
Now in my mid 30s with a long term partner and kid and a very rewarding and blessed life. But it's important to stay hungry and focused and looking through my earlier posts it's clear how motivated I was to succeed. I believe journaling was vital to maintain that momentum and hope to build the habit back.
While respecting NDAs, can you mention the categories of private investments / hedge funds, and percent of portfolio?It's been 3 years since my last post in this thread. NW is much harder to gauge now because a lot of it is illiquid/private investments but at book value is around $6m. Market value could be anywhere from $6m - $18m.
If we sold it wouldn't be to a secondaries fund. We'd either sell directly to private equity or a trade buyer. No plans to sell though. Trying to build a much larger business/portfolio.While respecting NDAs, can you mention the categories of private investments / hedge funds, and percent of portfolio?
There's a type of hedge fund called "secondaries" that buy up shares from people who want to sell. Since there's no public market for private investments, secondaries funds demand a discount. Does your 2x or 3x multiple ($6m to $18m) include the discount you'd have to take from selling a private investment?
10% Ownership stake in private business
It's been 3 years since my last post in this thread. NW is much harder to gauge now because a lot of it is illiquid/private investments but at book value is around $6m. Market value could be anywhere from $6m - $18m.
Some of your comments suggest a single holding ("10% Ownership stake in private business", "a much larger business") while others suggest a group of holdings ("private investments", "portfolio"). I'm still confused about that.If we sold it wouldn't be to a secondaries fund. We'd either sell directly to private equity or a trade buyer. No plans to sell though. Trying to build a much larger business/portfolio.
By portfolio I'm referring to businesses I majority own. That's largely how I've been able to scale my NW.Some of your comments suggest a single holding ("10% Ownership stake in private business", "a much larger business") while others suggest a group of holdings ("private investments", "portfolio"). I'm still confused about that.
The valuation jump you mention, turning part of your previous $1m NW into $6m to $18m, sounds more like a stunningly successful business than a portfolio of investments. Most of the richest people in the world rode a large holding in one company's stock (Tesla, Berkshire, Apple, Meta, ...). I hope you've got yourself a lottery ticket that keeps paying off.
It's harder for me to believe/understand 18x in 3 years with part of your NW, if that was invested in several private investments.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.