"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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onthepath

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hi guys
i finally went out there with the aim of meeting some new friends, and i've finally found a cool gropu of 3 people whom i have a lot in common

now one of the gropu is a girl, whom i LJBF'd although it was mutual, and now she's holding a small party and inviting some of her single friends, with the intent of setting me up

my question is, do you guys have some default conversation fillers that you use? i know that i sometimes test her interest level by deliberatley allowing for some uncomfortable silence, but i just wanted to know some possible questions or topics that i can keep just in reserve. i do'nt let myself ask the same lame where do you work what do you study etc questions, because id rather save those for later, after ive found a fun girl

thanks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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duttylove

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Dont think about what your going to say just let it flow. listen to what shes saying and expand on it. you can have a 10 minute conversation from a simple statement like "your in a good mood"
 

MAVER1CK

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exactly, just let it flow..


So where do you go to college?

westwood

oh really? how is it there? i was looking into that a while ago

its great the campus is nice blah blah blah

How are the professors?

They are very cool and helping..

how well are you doing there?

im doing good, its my second year.

thats kool, whats the plan?

oh i dont know, just rollin with it for now.

hahah yep, i know how that goes..



just keep it flowing and listen to what she has to say. try and keep the convo on HER.
 

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Originally posted by MAVER1CK
So where do you go to college?

westwood

oh really? how is it there? i was looking into that a while ago

its great the campus is nice blah blah blah

How are the professors?

They are very cool and helping..

how well are you doing there?

im doing good, its my second year.

thats kool, whats the plan?

oh i dont know, just rollin with it for now.

hahah yep, i know how that goes..
I appreciate the point you're making but......so many questions..... can really lead to nowhere....

....depends on the person though... seriously I don't even know how or why, but with certain people, ANY conversation is fun because both parties are making it fun, whereas with others it's hardly fun unless I put the effort in.... then it just crumbles...... different social dynamics I guess.....

I don't even know what the point of my post was.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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