"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SUCCESS, 1st step completed. listen to these guys, they know their sh*t

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Today, I walked into my anthropology class and said to this cutie in fron of me:
me: we've spoken a couple times, but I didnt catch your name.
her: oh, I'm amy.
Me: are you ready for the midterm?
Her: Not really i'm kinda nervous.
Me: You'll do fine, just relax
(At this time, the professor entered)
Me: We better get ready, I'll talk to you later.
her: OK! (smile)
(This is after test)
Me: Hey amy, why dont you write down your number so I can give you a call over break.
Her: O.k. here it is.
Me: Thanks, I'll give you a call.

I would have never had the balls to do that if it werent for the help of casonova and gipper! It was a great way to start building my confidence, My attitiude was different when I was talking to her, I was in control!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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congrats... Whitey. That was smooth.
 

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Originally posted by Whitey:

Today, I walked into my anthropology class and said to this cutie in fron of me:
me: we've spoken a couple times, but I didnt catch your name.
her: oh, I'm amy.
Me: are you ready for the midterm?
Her: Not really i'm kinda nervous.
Me: You'll do fine, just relax
(At this time, the professor entered)
Me: We better get ready, I'll talk to you later.
her: OK! (smile)
(This is after test)
Me: Hey amy, why dont you write down your number so I can give you a call over break.
Her: O.k. here it is.
Me: Thanks, I'll give you a call.

I would have never had the balls to do that if it werent for the help of casonova and gipper! It was a great way to start building my confidence, My attitiude was different when I was talking to her, I was in control!
Congratulations Whitey!

You are definitely on your way! Stay cool, stay focused and read the DJ Bible until it becomes second nature.

Oh, and by the way, I appreciate the thanks, but YOU did all the hard work!

Gipper

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"There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know you're money, and that you want to party.
-Trent, from "Swingers"

Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex.
-Daniel S. Greenberg
 

stuartSan

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Moved to Success Stories.

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i'd rather die than give you control
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i like it but replace the thanks at the closing with something else for next time. like an "alright" or anything that fits with you. thanking her for giving you her number just comes across as a little needy.

She probably didn't think about it but theres nothing wrong with adding a little polish in there.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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WAY TO GO, WHITEY!

You bring honor to DJs everywhere by your success. I agree with Gipper, too: I'm honored by your thanks, but you should thank YOURSELF the most. YOU DID IT. One small step for a DJ... one giant leap for a man!



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CASANOVA

"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

thecraftylefty

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Good job Whitey. I don't intend to bash your post, but I did notice one slight error you made when you asked for the phone number. You replied with, "Thanks, I'll call you." You should not have said thanks, because in your mind you should have been confident she would give it to you. It also shows some weakness. Should could have responded with "Great, I'll call you sometime." Or something to that extent. Otherwise good job and keep up the great work.
 

thecraftylefty

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Good job Whitey. I don't intend to bash your post, but I did notice one slight error you made when you asked for the phone number. You replied with, "Thanks, I'll call you." You should not have said thanks, because in your mind you should have been confident she would give it to you. It also shows some weakness. Should could have responded with "Great, I'll call you sometime." Or something to that extent. Otherwise good job and keep up the great work.

"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."

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