"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SUCCESS, 1st step completed. listen to these guys, they know their sh*t

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Today, I walked into my anthropology class and said to this cutie in fron of me:
me: we've spoken a couple times, but I didnt catch your name.
her: oh, I'm amy.
Me: are you ready for the midterm?
Her: Not really i'm kinda nervous.
Me: You'll do fine, just relax
(At this time, the professor entered)
Me: We better get ready, I'll talk to you later.
her: OK! (smile)
(This is after test)
Me: Hey amy, why dont you write down your number so I can give you a call over break.
Her: O.k. here it is.
Me: Thanks, I'll give you a call.

I would have never had the balls to do that if it werent for the help of casonova and gipper! It was a great way to start building my confidence, My attitiude was different when I was talking to her, I was in control!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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congrats... Whitey. That was smooth.
 

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Originally posted by Whitey:

Today, I walked into my anthropology class and said to this cutie in fron of me:
me: we've spoken a couple times, but I didnt catch your name.
her: oh, I'm amy.
Me: are you ready for the midterm?
Her: Not really i'm kinda nervous.
Me: You'll do fine, just relax
(At this time, the professor entered)
Me: We better get ready, I'll talk to you later.
her: OK! (smile)
(This is after test)
Me: Hey amy, why dont you write down your number so I can give you a call over break.
Her: O.k. here it is.
Me: Thanks, I'll give you a call.

I would have never had the balls to do that if it werent for the help of casonova and gipper! It was a great way to start building my confidence, My attitiude was different when I was talking to her, I was in control!
Congratulations Whitey!

You are definitely on your way! Stay cool, stay focused and read the DJ Bible until it becomes second nature.

Oh, and by the way, I appreciate the thanks, but YOU did all the hard work!

Gipper

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"There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know you're money, and that you want to party.
-Trent, from "Swingers"

Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex.
-Daniel S. Greenberg
 

stuartSan

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Moved to Success Stories.

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i'd rather die than give you control
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i like it but replace the thanks at the closing with something else for next time. like an "alright" or anything that fits with you. thanking her for giving you her number just comes across as a little needy.

She probably didn't think about it but theres nothing wrong with adding a little polish in there.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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WAY TO GO, WHITEY!

You bring honor to DJs everywhere by your success. I agree with Gipper, too: I'm honored by your thanks, but you should thank YOURSELF the most. YOU DID IT. One small step for a DJ... one giant leap for a man!



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"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

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Good job Whitey. I don't intend to bash your post, but I did notice one slight error you made when you asked for the phone number. You replied with, "Thanks, I'll call you." You should not have said thanks, because in your mind you should have been confident she would give it to you. It also shows some weakness. Should could have responded with "Great, I'll call you sometime." Or something to that extent. Otherwise good job and keep up the great work.
 

thecraftylefty

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Good job Whitey. I don't intend to bash your post, but I did notice one slight error you made when you asked for the phone number. You replied with, "Thanks, I'll call you." You should not have said thanks, because in your mind you should have been confident she would give it to you. It also shows some weakness. Should could have responded with "Great, I'll call you sometime." Or something to that extent. Otherwise good job and keep up the great work.

"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."

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