Subtle signs of you being in the "Friend Zone"?

[LostAndConfused]

Hey guys, there's this girl I'm really getting mixed messages from. One one hand, she changes her tone when she talks to me compared to others, in a good way I think, but on the other hand she says things like "Oh I love you" (and we arent dating) and other subtle indicators that she has already placed me in the friend zone.

So anyways does anyone know about ways to indicate if I'm in the friend zone or not? Because I don't want to even talk with her if I'm already placed in that zone (sorry b****, I don't want to hear about your problems with other guys)

 

[LostAndConfused]

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[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

The only way to know for sure is to ask her. Not your friends, not her friends, not internet buddies, but her. Ask her out. You don't have to be cheesy ("Would you like to go on a date with me?") but make it obvious that it's an exclusive date-type setting.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Girls say stuff like I love you to guys (and other girls) all the time.
It could be either way.

 

[Axcell]

There are many signs, see the way she talks to you and see the way you talk to her. The most common indicator of whether you are in the friends zone or not is whether you find yourself as being the guy she goes to when another guy does something to her.

Example:
A girl has a boyfriend, boyfriend is being an ass to her. She goes to you to tell her all your problems too, as if you are a shoulder to cry on.

Once you put yourself in as a severe situation as above, it is VERY difficult to remove yourself from this place FYI.

Hope I helped,
Nick.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

What happens if you stop being a shoulder for her?
"I don't care about your boyfriend. If you have a problem with him, get rid of him or deal with it yourself."

Then change the subject and add some djing techniques to make yourself seem better in her eyes...

 

[comic_relief]

It would create the scarcity mentality, but it is easier to actually NEVER get into the friendszone.

OP: ask her out to cut through all the little head games that you are playing with yourself. Don't overanalyze because women cannot be figured out. Just go and ask her out.

comic_relief

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Maybe it would help to have a list somewhere of what a friend is/does and what a non-friend is/does.

With a list like that, if possible and if very accurate, you'd know exactly what you'd have to do to stay away from friendships, the relationship destroyer.

Does a list like that exist anywhere?