"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Subtle Signs and Prods to Guys

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I have been talking to this girl at school for about 2 months now. We usually talk a couple of times per week. I have never worked up the nerve to try to hook things up even though she has given a few subtle. signs of interest, at least I think. Anyway, she has never talked about past bf's in the past until the other day. She started talking about her ex-boyfriend who moved off and mentioned that she missed him but not in a way that she wanted to get back with him. Then she started talking about a guy who had been hitting on her earlier in the day and how it annoyed her.

Are these possibly signs that she wants me to go for it? I thought maybe she was trying to get a reaction out of me possibly. Any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So pimp its scary

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Here's one thing about '********' that I've learned in the past... and now I tend to use such 'patterns' (for lack of a better term) against them (or in my favor).

In your particular example, the girl is single and tells you, "This guy today hit on me and it annoyed me" this is about equal to "You're NOT hitting on me and it's annoying me" OR "This guy was hitting on me, but I would rather YOU hit on me."

If you want to get with women try this technique :
a) Figure out what you want
b) Do something to get it
c) Look to see if you Are you closer to your goal ? (Yes - Keep doing it, No - Keep reading)
d) Change your approach until you get what you want
 
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She is trying to yell at you that she is freaking "available" - go for it now!!! Invite her to a fun activity and go for a kiss b4 the nights over! See what her response is.
 

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Thanks for the feedback. I'm hoping I will develop some balls between now and next week and take some action. I'll post my success or failure next week.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok I'll probably see her in the morning sometime. Anyone have any more advice or feedback before I make a move? Thanks.
 

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Dammit, I didn't have the balls to make a move today.. I don't know why, but I guess I'll try to psyche myself up for the next time I see her (later this week) I don't think time is likely gonna be on my side indefinitely.
 

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Originally posted by Ian19
Dammit, I didn't have the balls to make a move today.. I don't know why, but I guess I'll try to psyche myself up for the next time I see her (later this week) I don't think time is likely gonna be on my side indefinitely.


Patience. Do not rush. Remember, action oriented activity.
 

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Originally posted by So pimp its scary

If you want to get with women try this technique :
a) Figure out what you want
b) Do something to get it
c) Look to see if you Are you closer to your goal ? (Yes - Keep doing it, No - Keep reading)
d) Change your approach until you get what you want
I am 100% behind you on this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last year I had a girl that turned out to be a bit of a nut (semi stalker) after me lol. And being a nut she wasn't as subtle as other girls. I remember her saying 100 times, My EX Boyfriend this, or my EX boyfriend that". One day she told me a story about how some "sleazeball" tried to pick her up but she was totally disgusted by him. Then I would get the "what are you doing this weekend, oh really, I'm not doing anything fun". Of course I knew exactly what she was alluding to, however I also detected a slight mental disorder which was later proven correct!

Anyway, yes, she is doing everything but pulling out two light sticks and waving you in for a landing! It's a girls more subtle way of saying ask me out!
 

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In your particular example, the girl is single and tells you, "This guy today hit on me and it annoyed me" this is about equal to "You're NOT hitting on me and it's annoying me" OR "This guy was hitting on me, but I would rather YOU hit on me."


well , thats exactly what some single chick who I thought was interested has been saying. Great too know ive been a moron, and missed those subtle signs, but thanks for the heads up.
 
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