"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So I think i have a problem. I started drinking at 19, had a DWI at 22, im 35 now..Been drinking for years..Up to 10-12 beers a day(only in the past 2 years)...Last night i ****ed up and drank 4 beers, smoked weed and mixed with xanax. I couldnt even walk. I HARDLY do weed and xanax but for some reason i decided to mix last night. I could of died from that mix. Any advice that people have gone through this? I wish i could just drink beer socially like on weekends like normal people.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I struggle with alcoholism myself. It's been my crutch and I use it as an excuse to "loosen up" while going out. It's definitely helped with getting laid, but I always feel like **** after. It's definitely made me and say things I'm not proud of. I've had long stretches of sobriety and that's when I always felt the best. Even if I wasn't getting laid and under a "dry spell" I felt much more healthier. I guess it depends on which you value more. Live fast, die young.. or take the sober road and live happy and healthy. I'm stuck in between the two, so I feel like I can't offer much advice, I just understand where you're coming from. Mixing Xannax and alcohol can be extremely dangerous. You're lucky you didn't wake up in jail or worse. It is possible to get laid while sober tho. I've done it. I'm not gonna lie.. it's not as fun. There's nothing more I love than getting sloppy drunk with a chick and having some dirty nasty sex.. but this brings less than quality women, they're only good for a **** and that's it. You have to ask yourself what you truly want. If you continue drinking, you're only gonna fvck bar slvts.. because that's all you will attract. If you want to find a quality girlfriend with goals and ambitions then you have to sober up and mimic that which you want. Like attracts like.
 
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I think most guys here are absolutely right about seeking professional help. But mind you, nobody on this planet will hold your hand and stand by you 24/7. And I ve seen a few friends who went to rehab ,came back and started drinking even worse than before. Personally I have a love- hate- hate relationship with alcohol. Some personal opinions.

-you need less then you think: I ve once read when you are with a woman you should drink 2 , maybe 3 max. Anything more might damage the interaction. You'll go from funny drunk to just uncontrollably drunk real fast.

- acknowledge the alcoholic side of your self:its actually pointless to deny this side of yourself. It would be great if you could find peace with this side of you. It's there, 3/4 of the world drinks (maybe it's as old as humanity).

- quick inner search to why you drink: I ve find out I am drinking mostly to cope with stress depression ect. Once this became clear at least I had a reason. Didnt solve the issue completely, but at least when sober I was able to process thoughts and feelings on a conscious level(instead of sub conscious).

- to add to the first point; being sober between drunk people can be like the king with one eye amongst blind people. By staying sober but still going out you might actually be the sharpest tool in the box, bit its highly risky for somebody with alcoholic tendencies.

-Get your tolerance back to a more acceptable level: when I dont drink for a longer period , I can have two 330 cl cans of beer and feel dizzy. When the tolerance disappears, I need all kinds off thing like weed and worse to "feel something ".

- alcohol destroys you. Being 35 and drinking this much, will deteriorate your mind and soul. You'll gain weight, get ugly and damage your brains. Treat alcohol like hard drugs: you can take it but know there is a consequence.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's up to you to just say no.

Stop buying beer to have a home. If you don't have the product, you can't drink it.
 
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Crissco said:
So I think i have a problem. I started drinking at 19, had a DWI at 22, im 35 now..Been drinking for years..Up to 10-12 beers a day(only in the past 2 years)...Last night i ****ed up and drank 4 beers, smoked weed and mixed with xanax. I couldnt even walk. I HARDLY do weed and xanax but for some reason i decided to mix last night. I could of died from that mix. Any advice that people have gone through this? I wish i could just drink beer socially like on weekends like normal people.
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Something is wrong in your life or you wouldn't feel the need to numb yourself. You know what it is. Ask yourself: what do I need to change in my life? The answers will come jumping out at you. Write them down and make them into actionable goals.

Fvck therapy and "substance abuse" counselors. Past traumas can play a role, but traumas are affecting you NOW which you need to fix NOW. It doesn't matter what past events caused you feel the way you do, it matters how you deal with it today.

People aren't stupid. We know exactly why we're in despair. If we don't it's simply because we've deluded or distracted ourselves (ie substance abuse, processed junk foods, porn, video games, social media/internet, etc).

For me the mental clarity of not abusing drugs can be worth it alone. Nothing beats having a calm, lucid mind.
 
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Crissco said:
So I think i have a problem. I started drinking at 19, had a DWI at 22, im 35 now..Been drinking for years..Up to 10-12 beers a day(only in the past 2 years)...Last night i ****ed up and drank 4 beers, smoked weed and mixed with xanax. I couldnt even walk. I HARDLY do weed and xanax but for some reason i decided to mix last night. I could of died from that mix. Any advice that people have gone through this? I wish i could just drink beer socially like on weekends like normal people.
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Ask hospitalized in critical condition and a coma Anne Heche if mixing drugs and different types of alcohol is a good idea…

You’re the Only one that can decide to change your life, it may require outside professional help, maybe not, but in the end, Not making that decision for change will result in your death sooner than everyone else …
 
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