"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Peacebewithyou

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Hey guys,

Need advice on clothing.

I was planning on wearing light khakis with a dark blue and grey sweater, brown belt, and brown shoes at this ceremony I have to attend.

Does this sound like a decent combo?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is just my 2 cents....

It might be too much of a contrast between dark on the top and light on the bottom. I tend to think of lighter color tops with khakis but that's me.

I would wear that sweater with black slacks. (Then black belt and black shoes.)

Of course, climate is a factor. I live where it's cold so we wear dark colors this time of year. (Actually I wear them all year lol.)
 

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How about light khakis with a blue, brown, and yellow striped button down under a dark blue sweater, brown belt, and brown shoes?

I really want to bust out the brown belt and brown shoes.

Also, I might just save the dark grey and blue sweater for the combo you have advised Mike.
 

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It sounds doable as long as the sweater isn't TOO dark.

You know how some navy blue clothing is so dark that you have to look at it in the light to tell if it's black or blue? Obviously, you want to avoid that shade with khakis lol. Otherwise, you are probably ok.

Brown shoes and brown belt are perfect for the khakis. No disagreement there. Although the belt style and color is moot because sweaters are always untucked and tend to cover up the belt. But defintely rock the brown shoes.
 
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