"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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lol if you want your wallet to die and get hated on by everyone thereTekniq said:
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^ My new style home. Huge in-depth articles on men's fashion, and a great community that I participate in.
http://thesartorialist.blogspot.com/
^ The guy takes pictures of uniquely stylish individuals he sees on the street. Great to see what's out there, and to get ideas on what might work for your own style.
http://men.style.com/gq/fashion
^ Slideshows of looks for you to go through
http://men.style.com/gq/fashion/styleguy
^ Bucketloads of little style tips
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Definetly agree with the poster above on this site. I frequent it - has some nice tips with a good archive.
Bro to get started,look at what other guys are up to in terms of style who ARE popular.Then try leaning more towards that style but have your own variation.For me I tend to go sporty.
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How are the Kinowear articles not helpful? They advocate finding our own style - the earlier a guy starts doing this, the better.619joe said:Guys this is the high school forum,alot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much....
Bro to get started,look at what other guys are up to in terms of style who ARE popular.Then try leaning more towards that style but have your own variation.For me I tend to go sporty.
This is why I disagree with your advice to copy the style of the popular crowd. Don't change yourself to please other people. Change yourself so you're happy with who YOU are.
You misread his post. He said that kinowear articles are the only ones helpful, the other ones are useless. He said: "lot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much"DismantleRepair said:How are the Kinowear articles not helpful? They advocate finding our own style - the earlier a guy starts doing this, the better.
This is why I disagree with your advice to copy the style of the popular crowd. Don't change yourself to please other people. Change yourself so you're happy with who YOU are.
And frankly, I agree with 619joe. To be honest, that site should have everything you need and it's constantly being updated with more information. So just use that, end of discussion.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Oops! That "ike" threw me off and I didn't see the "except".Axcell said:You misread his post. He said that kinowear articles are the only ones helpful, the other ones are useless. He said: "lot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much"
And frankly, I agree with 619joe. To be honest, that site should have everything you need and it's constantly being updated with more information. So just use that, end of discussion.
But what Im saying is look at how old those guys are in the other links.This is a HS forum which means the dude is in HS.You will look like your trying WAY too hard dressing like that its more for guys in like early to mid 20's.
Although finding what YOU like the best is important,then look at "goth" people.They found their own style they love no matter what,yet why do they get frowned upon?Me and this hot girl in math used to rag on this wierd goth kid with long hair and safety pins all over his trenchcoat.He probably is happy with himself,but does that help him out in the long run?I mean I guess what Im saying is that you have to have a balance
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