"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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lol if you want your wallet to die and get hated on by everyone thereTekniq said:
DismantleRepair
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^ My new style home. Huge in-depth articles on men's fashion, and a great community that I participate in.
http://thesartorialist.blogspot.com/
^ The guy takes pictures of uniquely stylish individuals he sees on the street. Great to see what's out there, and to get ideas on what might work for your own style.
http://men.style.com/gq/fashion
^ Slideshows of looks for you to go through
http://men.style.com/gq/fashion/styleguy
^ Bucketloads of little style tips
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Definetly agree with the poster above on this site. I frequent it - has some nice tips with a good archive.
Bro to get started,look at what other guys are up to in terms of style who ARE popular.Then try leaning more towards that style but have your own variation.For me I tend to go sporty.
DismantleRepair
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How are the Kinowear articles not helpful? They advocate finding our own style - the earlier a guy starts doing this, the better.619joe said:Guys this is the high school forum,alot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much....
Bro to get started,look at what other guys are up to in terms of style who ARE popular.Then try leaning more towards that style but have your own variation.For me I tend to go sporty.
This is why I disagree with your advice to copy the style of the popular crowd. Don't change yourself to please other people. Change yourself so you're happy with who YOU are.
You misread his post. He said that kinowear articles are the only ones helpful, the other ones are useless. He said: "lot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much"DismantleRepair said:How are the Kinowear articles not helpful? They advocate finding our own style - the earlier a guy starts doing this, the better.
This is why I disagree with your advice to copy the style of the popular crowd. Don't change yourself to please other people. Change yourself so you're happy with who YOU are.
And frankly, I agree with 619joe. To be honest, that site should have everything you need and it's constantly being updated with more information. So just use that, end of discussion.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DismantleRepair
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Oops! That "ike" threw me off and I didn't see the "except".Axcell said:You misread his post. He said that kinowear articles are the only ones helpful, the other ones are useless. He said: "lot of those links except ike kinowear dont really help the guy out much"
And frankly, I agree with 619joe. To be honest, that site should have everything you need and it's constantly being updated with more information. So just use that, end of discussion.
But what Im saying is look at how old those guys are in the other links.This is a HS forum which means the dude is in HS.You will look like your trying WAY too hard dressing like that its more for guys in like early to mid 20's.
Although finding what YOU like the best is important,then look at "goth" people.They found their own style they love no matter what,yet why do they get frowned upon?Me and this hot girl in math used to rag on this wierd goth kid with long hair and safety pins all over his trenchcoat.He probably is happy with himself,but does that help him out in the long run?I mean I guess what Im saying is that you have to have a balance
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