Yea so I was an idiot and asked this girl through a text message. I just wanted to be able to make the plans ahead of time for this weekend since I didn't get a break at work and couldn't call her I figured I would just text her around 8 or so. She didn't write back so far and I will see her at work tomorrow but I dont know if I should say something about it or keep quiet and act like nothing happened. Im sure she got it because I text my friend right after and she wrote right back. Overall just a dumb move by me and I think I should have just found a way to call her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
stupid move....asked her out through a text message
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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haha..i'm a girl..and I found about 59 posts on here bout me, and Uhh that move was DUMB, happened to me before, yeah I didn't answer It was awkward and a reall bad way to ask
My Name is Nobody
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Call her now. What's up CrazyB?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Bet'cha won't do that again... 
You'll need to confront her directly though. If you don't you'll seem a bit more wussy. She'll think that you can only talk to her face to face if it's business related, otherwise you will depend on only texting her in hopes that she'll respond.
You'll need to confront her directly though. If you don't you'll seem a bit more wussy. She'll think that you can only talk to her face to face if it's business related, otherwise you will depend on only texting her in hopes that she'll respond.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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El Don said:
Why is it too late? It's been like an hour since you made the original post.
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Man up and call her now... it's your best chance I believe.
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NEVER ask for the first few dates over text message. nuff said!El Don said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
knglerxt
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CrazyBeautiful said:
What's so dumb about it? As long as you know the girl, what's the big deal? All the girl would have to do is text him back and say "Ok. Call me and let's set up a time and place."
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you know...... Before I used to think that somehow everything was my fault. That because I did X=Y+1 so Y-X+z didnt happen.
it is not like that.
dont make it so complicated, remeber before the DJ "bible" (just the word makes it sound like a cult)
these are guidelines to so you have the right mindset, so you wont come off as needy. SO you have more success rate but at the end of the day, even if you do a 100% Dj moves, it comes down to raw ATTRACTION.
I by no means have found the best way that suits me, but i have figured out this much " if she is attracted to you, she will make it easy for you"
girls are not there waiting to reject you over a simple mistake or way of asking out, or right words. IF girl A wants to go out with guy B, no matter how guy B ask girl A to go out she will. through e-mail, through a letter, through phone, face to face. IT DOESNT MATTER, she will do it.
if girl A doesnt want to go out with guy B there is no dam way guy B will ever have the right "moves" even if she agrees for some reason she will FIND something to reject him for.
it is not like that.
dont make it so complicated, remeber before the DJ "bible" (just the word makes it sound like a cult)
these are guidelines to so you have the right mindset, so you wont come off as needy. SO you have more success rate but at the end of the day, even if you do a 100% Dj moves, it comes down to raw ATTRACTION.
I by no means have found the best way that suits me, but i have figured out this much " if she is attracted to you, she will make it easy for you"
girls are not there waiting to reject you over a simple mistake or way of asking out, or right words. IF girl A wants to go out with guy B, no matter how guy B ask girl A to go out she will. through e-mail, through a letter, through phone, face to face. IT DOESNT MATTER, she will do it.
if girl A doesnt want to go out with guy B there is no dam way guy B will ever have the right "moves" even if she agrees for some reason she will FIND something to reject him for.
Gangster Of Love
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No big deal. As long as you are not making it so obvious that it means a lot to you. Just be prepared for her to ask you, "What did you do last night.", better have a good answer. Doesn't matter if it is true or not, you must have a good answer that shows it was no big deal if she didn't respond, since you went ahead and did your thing.
CrunchyNut
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No my good man, all those posts were about her. She is, in fact, not just a girl. She is the very essence of girlness. All chicks are just instantiations of her. Cough.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.