Yea so I was an idiot and asked this girl through a text message. I just wanted to be able to make the plans ahead of time for this weekend since I didn't get a break at work and couldn't call her I figured I would just text her around 8 or so. She didn't write back so far and I will see her at work tomorrow but I dont know if I should say something about it or keep quiet and act like nothing happened. Im sure she got it because I text my friend right after and she wrote right back. Overall just a dumb move by me and I think I should have just found a way to call her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stupid move....asked her out through a text message
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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haha..i'm a girl..and I found about 59 posts on here bout me, and Uhh that move was DUMB, happened to me before, yeah I didn't answer It was awkward and a reall bad way to ask
My Name is Nobody
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Call her now. What's up CrazyB?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Bet'cha won't do that again... 
You'll need to confront her directly though. If you don't you'll seem a bit more wussy. She'll think that you can only talk to her face to face if it's business related, otherwise you will depend on only texting her in hopes that she'll respond.
You'll need to confront her directly though. If you don't you'll seem a bit more wussy. She'll think that you can only talk to her face to face if it's business related, otherwise you will depend on only texting her in hopes that she'll respond.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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El Don said:
Why is it too late? It's been like an hour since you made the original post.
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Man up and call her now... it's your best chance I believe.
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NEVER ask for the first few dates over text message. nuff said!El Don said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
knglerxt
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CrazyBeautiful said:
What's so dumb about it? As long as you know the girl, what's the big deal? All the girl would have to do is text him back and say "Ok. Call me and let's set up a time and place."
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you know...... Before I used to think that somehow everything was my fault. That because I did X=Y+1 so Y-X+z didnt happen.
it is not like that.
dont make it so complicated, remeber before the DJ "bible" (just the word makes it sound like a cult)
these are guidelines to so you have the right mindset, so you wont come off as needy. SO you have more success rate but at the end of the day, even if you do a 100% Dj moves, it comes down to raw ATTRACTION.
I by no means have found the best way that suits me, but i have figured out this much " if she is attracted to you, she will make it easy for you"
girls are not there waiting to reject you over a simple mistake or way of asking out, or right words. IF girl A wants to go out with guy B, no matter how guy B ask girl A to go out she will. through e-mail, through a letter, through phone, face to face. IT DOESNT MATTER, she will do it.
if girl A doesnt want to go out with guy B there is no dam way guy B will ever have the right "moves" even if she agrees for some reason she will FIND something to reject him for.
it is not like that.
dont make it so complicated, remeber before the DJ "bible" (just the word makes it sound like a cult)
these are guidelines to so you have the right mindset, so you wont come off as needy. SO you have more success rate but at the end of the day, even if you do a 100% Dj moves, it comes down to raw ATTRACTION.
I by no means have found the best way that suits me, but i have figured out this much " if she is attracted to you, she will make it easy for you"
girls are not there waiting to reject you over a simple mistake or way of asking out, or right words. IF girl A wants to go out with guy B, no matter how guy B ask girl A to go out she will. through e-mail, through a letter, through phone, face to face. IT DOESNT MATTER, she will do it.
if girl A doesnt want to go out with guy B there is no dam way guy B will ever have the right "moves" even if she agrees for some reason she will FIND something to reject him for.
Gangster Of Love
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No big deal. As long as you are not making it so obvious that it means a lot to you. Just be prepared for her to ask you, "What did you do last night.", better have a good answer. Doesn't matter if it is true or not, you must have a good answer that shows it was no big deal if she didn't respond, since you went ahead and did your thing.
CrunchyNut
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No my good man, all those posts were about her. She is, in fact, not just a girl. She is the very essence of girlness. All chicks are just instantiations of her. Cough.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.