"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ill keep it simple....there is this "girl" ive been hanging out with and people keep on thinking we are bf/gf. For some reason, she keeps telling me that people ask her if we are dating and she feels the need to tell me. When she tells me this, im clueless to a C&F response. It happened again last night and the best response i could have thought of was.."heh..thats cute" with a big smile.

What do you guys think i could/should say?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tell her that if she plays her cards right, she might have a chance.

I have no idea if that was even close to what you're looking for.
 

killerasp

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Originally posted by Slickster
"Tell them that we're not dating, just having sex"
HAHAH..nice one man. thanks. im think im able to spin it and use it various ways. thansks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I,m probably one of the last guy that should give this kind of advice.
Since I have zero experience with dating:(

But,I think you should ask yourself,how you fell about her and if you want to be her boyfriend.
If so,next time she ask you,you should ask her"do you want to be?"
If she say yes,and that`s what you want,good for you.
But that`s just what I would do.:D
 

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Hybrid2, thats quite AFC, I really dont recommend what hybrid just said.
 

killerasp

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Originally posted by Hybrid2
I,m probably one of the last guy that should give this kind of advice.
Since I have zero experience with dating:(

But,I think you should ask yourself,how you fell about her and if you want to be her boyfriend.
If so,next time she ask you,you should ask her"do you want to be?"
If she say yes,and that`s what you want,good for you.
But that`s just what I would do.:D
yeah dude. thats not a good response.

by saying something like: "do you want to be?" will put all the power in her corner. its like you are waiting her for to make a move rather than you doing something.

you should never say something that will give her power in the decision. you would be better off trying to say something that makes her look like the aggressor and you trying to act like the innocent fawn...something like:

"hey hey now.....i know that you are deeply attracted to me...but id like to take things slowly...whatever happened to the good ol days of getting to know someone first!?" (with a big smile on your face so she cant tell if you are serious or joking around)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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