"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Study shows 50% of all women have a backup man they string along (sometimes for years )

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She doesn’t actually consider the “backup” guy to be a True Plan B. Plan B is an action plan that you would definitely implement if Plan A fails.

She’s not really going to F/date/marry her Plan B guy if the wheels come off with the Plan A guy.

Plan B guy is just a PLACEHOLDER in her mind. It makes her FEEL more secure, but that’s it. She will simply find a NEW Plan A guy if it doesn’t work out with the first.

Plan B guy is typically a friendzoned guy that she likes but she feels little to no attraction towards.

TLDR: It’s over for contingencycels.
Not necessarily. It could be that this “backup” guy is also the dude she’s screwing behind her man’s back.
 

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If you would vet better the girls for ltr then most of the problems discussed here will disappear

women can play whatever mind games they want , and as long as you do not take her seriously it will not affect you that much
 

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I think this is another instance of hammed-up red pill outrage at something that is simple biology.

In our ancestral societies, women depended on men for physical protection, resources, and survival. Hence, it was unwise for them to place all their eggs in a single basket. Men frequently died early, premature, sudden, or violent deaths. She and her offspring could then die if there wasn't a contingency plan.

Needier women are more likely to actively cultivate their orbiters into continency plans. More secure women aren't going on happy hour dates with male "friends" in the same manner, but their antennae are always up for alternative mating opportunities. Remember -- women don't need to approach to have opportunities. They just need to have vaginas. They always have options, whether they're single or not.
 

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It is key for guys to understand that women are not men , and that their mating objectives are different

it is futile to judge a woman based on how you think , as women will never be men

I think the best example is with the feminism . Women will cherry pick whatever is best for them on the moment both from the traditional and the feminism ideology

sure from a guy perspective is wrong , but from a woman perspective it is alright
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Furthermore , I am talking with a girl that is quite ugly , and I think that she is also quite depressed . She is trying to mask this

the funny thing is that she knows that I am way more attractive than her , but despite this she still tries to look cool and stuff like that . But when I push back a bit , she retreats and starts saying sorry and bla bla

what it is to understand from this is that all women more or less act the same , and the most important thing for a guy is to push things towards sex , and not focus on talking with her for the sake of talking

the she either starts adding value to your life , either not . If she adds value then you can think about an ltr , and if she is not adding value to your life you either booty call her from time to time , either you move on to the next victim and forget about it

things are simple , do not complicate them by thinking too much :)
 

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Furthermore , I am talking with a girl that is quite ugly , and I think that she is also quite depressed . She is trying to mask this

the funny thing is that she knows that I am way more attractive than her , but despite this she still tries to look cool and stuff like that . But when I push back a bit , she retreats and starts saying sorry and bla bla

what it is to understand from this is that all women more or less act the same , and the most important thing for a guy is to push things towards sex , and not focus on talking with her for the sake of talking

the she either starts adding value to your life , either not . If she adds value then you can think about an ltr , and if she is not adding value to your life you either booty call her from time to time , either you move on to the next victim and forget about it

things are simple , do not complicate them by thinking too much :)
Some women like that just need to be talked to and kissed on correctly. They can be very grateful..
 

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but for sure this should not be your first option when dealing with a woman that has attitude or comes with stupid reasons .

The first option is to ignore her
Oh if its one whose competitive or disruptive then she's ungrateful
and should be ignored.
 

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I d go with Dash's take. Best way of not caring is being a busy guy. Maybe your the guy who has the best train set ever. Unlikely to get you laid but it's your life your choice. Sh1t I spent a chunk of last night practicing tennis footwork so maybe I am trainset guy. Sad is the guy who doesn't have interests and projects. Need the balance. Both work and women r likely to fuk u over at some point. When that happens u need a reason above pure survival to keep getting out of bed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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50% seems low, and it's definitely more than one backup. Women, especially these days with texting and so many different social media and messaging apps, are great at multi-tasking when it comes to keeping their bench and farm clubs in the mix.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Chris rock was ahead of the researchers. He isnt wrong. Woman always have a backup even for Chad.
 
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