"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Study: Mental Illness is the Evolutionary price being paid for intelligence

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Interesting...

"Two papers published in the January issue of Nature Neuroscience help answer this riddle. In a two-part study, scientists in the United Kingdom demonstrated that a genetic event 550 million years ago that led to the duplication of certain genes fostered the evolution of complex nervous systems and behaviors in humans, mice and other vertebrates. That event, however, also led to a downside for vertebrates: the development of mental illnesses."

No different than when thinking of anything else really...when you upgrade something, you pay for it somewhere, there are no free lunches so to speak in evolution or anything else in life.

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interesting...

"Two papers published in the January issue of Nature Neuroscience help answer this riddle. In a two-part study, scientists in the United Kingdom demonstrated that a genetic event 550 million years ago that led to the duplication of certain genes fostered the evolution of complex nervous systems and behaviors in humans, mice and other vertebrates. That event, however, also led to a downside for vertebrates: the development of mental illnesses."

No different than when thinking of anything else really...when you upgrade something, you pay for it somewhere, there are no free lunches so to speak in evolution or anything else in life.

We're also the only mammal with a propensity to choke and die on our own food. As the brain got bigger, that space had to come from somewhere, thus our narrow throats that occasionally kill us.
 

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We're also the only mammal with a propensity to choke and die on our own food. As the brain got bigger, that space had to come from somewhere, thus our narrow throats that occasionally kill us.
That's actually true but it's not due to brain adaptation as much as how the throat evolved for speech.
 

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That's actually true but it's not due to brain adaptation as much as how the throat evolved for speech.
I have a 140 IQ, I also happen to be bipolar. Recent discovery. I don’t know that necessarily infers correlation but obviously Nature is the gold standard. Too lazy to read.
 

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A few minutes on social media, or/and watching episodes of daytime talk shows from back in the day, confirm:

A sharp mind is to mental illness what being a talented singer is to fronting a death metal act... Less necessary than clothes on an Instagram chick
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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difference between mental illness and evolutionary adaption is mostly opinion and perspective. it will be measured by survival.

are you telling about the law of equivalent exchange ?
 

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Lots of folks who are just intelligent enough to start believing they're smarter than they really are are prone to angst-inducing thinking, such as:

"I knew I was different. I thought that I might be gay or something because I couldn't identify with any of the guys at all. None of them liked art or music. They just wanted to fight and get laid. It was many years ago but it gave me this real hatred for the average American macho male" https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/107092-i-knew-i-was-different-i-thought-that-i-might , rather than coming out and saying what's REALLY bugging them:

"Being sociable didn't come naturally to me, and I ended up being seen as one of the weirdos no one but other weirdos wanted to associate with. That was painful back when it happened, and still is today, if I ruminate on those times"

Unfortunately, we CONTINUE to mistake angst for a mark of higher wisdom, this many years after Grunge sputtered out
 
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