"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Study: Mental Illness is the Evolutionary price being paid for intelligence

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,974
Reaction score
19,306
Interesting...

"Two papers published in the January issue of Nature Neuroscience help answer this riddle. In a two-part study, scientists in the United Kingdom demonstrated that a genetic event 550 million years ago that led to the duplication of certain genes fostered the evolution of complex nervous systems and behaviors in humans, mice and other vertebrates. That event, however, also led to a downside for vertebrates: the development of mental illnesses."

No different than when thinking of anything else really...when you upgrade something, you pay for it somewhere, there are no free lunches so to speak in evolution or anything else in life.

 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Bible_Belt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
17,576
Reaction score
6,359
Age
50
Location
midwestern cow field 40
Interesting...

"Two papers published in the January issue of Nature Neuroscience help answer this riddle. In a two-part study, scientists in the United Kingdom demonstrated that a genetic event 550 million years ago that led to the duplication of certain genes fostered the evolution of complex nervous systems and behaviors in humans, mice and other vertebrates. That event, however, also led to a downside for vertebrates: the development of mental illnesses."

No different than when thinking of anything else really...when you upgrade something, you pay for it somewhere, there are no free lunches so to speak in evolution or anything else in life.

We're also the only mammal with a propensity to choke and die on our own food. As the brain got bigger, that space had to come from somewhere, thus our narrow throats that occasionally kill us.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,974
Reaction score
19,306
We're also the only mammal with a propensity to choke and die on our own food. As the brain got bigger, that space had to come from somewhere, thus our narrow throats that occasionally kill us.
That's actually true but it's not due to brain adaptation as much as how the throat evolved for speech.
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
3,887
Reaction score
2,554
That's actually true but it's not due to brain adaptation as much as how the throat evolved for speech.
I have a 140 IQ, I also happen to be bipolar. Recent discovery. I don’t know that necessarily infers correlation but obviously Nature is the gold standard. Too lazy to read.
 

BaronOfHair

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2024
Messages
5,560
Reaction score
3,039
Age
37
A few minutes on social media, or/and watching episodes of daytime talk shows from back in the day, confirm:

A sharp mind is to mental illness what being a talented singer is to fronting a death metal act... Less necessary than clothes on an Instagram chick
 
Last edited:

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

plumber

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2022
Messages
1,023
Reaction score
876
difference between mental illness and evolutionary adaption is mostly opinion and perspective. it will be measured by survival.

are you telling about the law of equivalent exchange ?
 

BaronOfHair

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 14, 2024
Messages
5,560
Reaction score
3,039
Age
37
Topic reminds me of
4:13-4:50

Lots of folks who are just intelligent enough to start believing they're smarter than they really are are prone to angst-inducing thinking, such as:

"I knew I was different. I thought that I might be gay or something because I couldn't identify with any of the guys at all. None of them liked art or music. They just wanted to fight and get laid. It was many years ago but it gave me this real hatred for the average American macho male" https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/107092-i-knew-i-was-different-i-thought-that-i-might , rather than coming out and saying what's REALLY bugging them:

"Being sociable didn't come naturally to me, and I ended up being seen as one of the weirdos no one but other weirdos wanted to associate with. That was painful back when it happened, and still is today, if I ruminate on those times"

Unfortunately, we CONTINUE to mistake angst for a mark of higher wisdom, this many years after Grunge sputtered out
 
Last edited:
Top