"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dear Don Juan's,

A few weeks ago I met this girl after a night of going out. I got her email and mailed her a few days later. After a few mails I asked her for a date, and she was ok with it. After some shopping and a drink we said goodbye. I didnt kiss her... Beside that we really had a good time, she was laughing alot and she gave me some flirting and a lil bit of kimo. Her phone was broken so I couldnt call her, so had to mail her again. Few mails later I asked her again to meet up, she replied being very busy and a relative was in the hospitel so she was going to spend her free time there. Now I really thought this was over, untill I received a mail from her a few days ago, asking how I've been and if I had some fun stories to tell. She told me a bit about what she's been doing this weekend etc. Now Im like wtf Im supposed to do? Should I ask her if she allready got more time to do something or should I wait untill she say's she got time.. Really like this girl so dont wanna f*ck up u know. Thanks for the advice!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How long has it been?

If it has been, a couple weeks or something, just say you've ben up to a lot, and would like to know what shes been up to, so lets catch up over lunch or something.

Don't spend an email telling her what you could be saying in person..
 
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No thats the point, I speak to her in mails at least between two days. I asked her after the first date two weeks ago and all we have is email contact. Dont know if I should ask her again or just wait...
 
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Yeah try again, no harm in trying. Don't mention the last time you tried at all, not a word, and if she flakes again then forget it.
 
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Ok thanks man. Im gonna ask her soon, and then Ill post what her response is.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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