"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dear Don Juan's,

A few weeks ago I met this girl after a night of going out. I got her email and mailed her a few days later. After a few mails I asked her for a date, and she was ok with it. After some shopping and a drink we said goodbye. I didnt kiss her... Beside that we really had a good time, she was laughing alot and she gave me some flirting and a lil bit of kimo. Her phone was broken so I couldnt call her, so had to mail her again. Few mails later I asked her again to meet up, she replied being very busy and a relative was in the hospitel so she was going to spend her free time there. Now I really thought this was over, untill I received a mail from her a few days ago, asking how I've been and if I had some fun stories to tell. She told me a bit about what she's been doing this weekend etc. Now Im like wtf Im supposed to do? Should I ask her if she allready got more time to do something or should I wait untill she say's she got time.. Really like this girl so dont wanna f*ck up u know. Thanks for the advice!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How long has it been?

If it has been, a couple weeks or something, just say you've ben up to a lot, and would like to know what shes been up to, so lets catch up over lunch or something.

Don't spend an email telling her what you could be saying in person..
 
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No thats the point, I speak to her in mails at least between two days. I asked her after the first date two weeks ago and all we have is email contact. Dont know if I should ask her again or just wait...
 
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Yeah try again, no harm in trying. Don't mention the last time you tried at all, not a word, and if she flakes again then forget it.
 
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Ok thanks man. Im gonna ask her soon, and then Ill post what her response is.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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