"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dear Don Juan's,

A few weeks ago I met this girl after a night of going out. I got her email and mailed her a few days later. After a few mails I asked her for a date, and she was ok with it. After some shopping and a drink we said goodbye. I didnt kiss her... Beside that we really had a good time, she was laughing alot and she gave me some flirting and a lil bit of kimo. Her phone was broken so I couldnt call her, so had to mail her again. Few mails later I asked her again to meet up, she replied being very busy and a relative was in the hospitel so she was going to spend her free time there. Now I really thought this was over, untill I received a mail from her a few days ago, asking how I've been and if I had some fun stories to tell. She told me a bit about what she's been doing this weekend etc. Now Im like wtf Im supposed to do? Should I ask her if she allready got more time to do something or should I wait untill she say's she got time.. Really like this girl so dont wanna f*ck up u know. Thanks for the advice!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How long has it been?

If it has been, a couple weeks or something, just say you've ben up to a lot, and would like to know what shes been up to, so lets catch up over lunch or something.

Don't spend an email telling her what you could be saying in person..
 

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No thats the point, I speak to her in mails at least between two days. I asked her after the first date two weeks ago and all we have is email contact. Dont know if I should ask her again or just wait...
 

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Yeah try again, no harm in trying. Don't mention the last time you tried at all, not a word, and if she flakes again then forget it.
 

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Ok thanks man. Im gonna ask her soon, and then Ill post what her response is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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