"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stuck in a rug

steve_erkle

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Hey guys. I'm in a little bit of a rut and need some help getting out of it. For the past month or so I've been really lazy and unmotivated. I've got goals for myself but I don't feel like putting any work into them, and when I do , it's alwayss half-assed. I hate lying around and doing nothing but I can't help it. What do I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Metaphysical

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you gotta figure out why you are feeling lazy in the first place

maybe you are making goals that are too tough.

make a goal to get your ass off the couch or the computer chair, and do it.
 

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I've been that way, too, in the past couple of months. however, it happens every year at this time. I am affected by the seasonal weather changes. Perhaps you are too?

Right now I have the furnace set at 72 and a bright lightbulb shining into my face. If I didn't do that I'd be in bed not able to get out.

Do your retinas/eyes ache? I forget the medical term for this. If so turn a light bulb on in front of where you sit. That always seems to help me.
 

It's-Me

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steve_erkle said:
Hey guys. I'm in a little bit of a rut and need some help getting out of it. For the past month or so I've been really lazy and unmotivated. I've got goals for myself but I don't feel like putting any work into them, and when I do , it's alwayss half-assed. I hate lying around and doing nothing but I can't help it. What do I do?
What can you do? Get off your lazy ass and go do something about it - complaining about it isn't going to get you anywhere and you need to have the willpower to do it.
 
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