"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stuck in a rug

steve_erkle

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Hey guys. I'm in a little bit of a rut and need some help getting out of it. For the past month or so I've been really lazy and unmotivated. I've got goals for myself but I don't feel like putting any work into them, and when I do , it's alwayss half-assed. I hate lying around and doing nothing but I can't help it. What do I do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Metaphysical

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you gotta figure out why you are feeling lazy in the first place

maybe you are making goals that are too tough.

make a goal to get your ass off the couch or the computer chair, and do it.
 

LoneRanger

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I've been that way, too, in the past couple of months. however, it happens every year at this time. I am affected by the seasonal weather changes. Perhaps you are too?

Right now I have the furnace set at 72 and a bright lightbulb shining into my face. If I didn't do that I'd be in bed not able to get out.

Do your retinas/eyes ache? I forget the medical term for this. If so turn a light bulb on in front of where you sit. That always seems to help me.
 

It's-Me

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steve_erkle said:
Hey guys. I'm in a little bit of a rut and need some help getting out of it. For the past month or so I've been really lazy and unmotivated. I've got goals for myself but I don't feel like putting any work into them, and when I do , it's alwayss half-assed. I hate lying around and doing nothing but I can't help it. What do I do?
What can you do? Get off your lazy ass and go do something about it - complaining about it isn't going to get you anywhere and you need to have the willpower to do it.
 
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